I am a divorced guy, 6' 235lbs, avg build avg looks. A father with kids at home, and make a good living. I have Ex's to deal with, and even have my father living with me (he is retired). I drive Trucks and I am only in on weekends. Would you date someone like me with all the hurdles or do you look for easier dates? I am not trying to hook up, just wondering what girls think about guys like me and in my situation. And if they actually work for a relationship these days or look for less baggage?
2006-11-04 01:43:46 · 23 answers · asked by Common Sense 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ex's yes, but only one marrage, the other ran off with her church deacon before we could get married. I have a daughter with her.
2006-11-04 01:51:30 · update #1
Depends on if the "hurdles" are worth it. If you are as great as you sound most women would be happy to jump a few hurdles to be wtih you. It's not all about what baggage you come with it's more about how you treat your woman.
2006-11-04 01:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by momma 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Depends on your personality, and what you have to offer via the romance persona.
Realistically, a woman wants her man to be there at the end of the day with some conversation, and TLC
If you have time to date, then you have time for your woman.
Same goes for the woman too, it's not all one sided you know...
Hyperthetically speaking - Could you date a woman divorced 2X, with children from both marriages? She also looks after both her retired parents who live a few houses away... She feels that a man by her side could help halve her chores as he would be a great help to her. Don't forget, she works full-time too and gets quite a bit of O/T, so it's not like she's away from the house from 9-5! She also deals with the ex's and one is not pleasant. She feels incompetant to her children as there is not enough of her to time for them. She probably wouldn't give a date with a man a chance as she couldn't fit it into her schedule...
It really depends on each persons personality, and how they can adapt to the situations. Some embrace the "baggage" (lack of a better word), whilst others steer clear away...
Also depends on age... I don't think an 18 year old would, but possibly someone between 35-55 years would be ok with your situation.
So buddy, if companionship is just around the corner for you...
then how you naturally make a woman fall in love with you is what it's all about!
2006-11-04 09:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The kids at home and the retired dad are fine, but most girls don't want the drama of their man dealing with exes (not just one ex) or the fact the man is only around on the weekends because the job takes the man out of area.
I am married, but when I was single I worked very hard for my relationships. Too hard, actually. But I was also very selective; I was young and wasn't looking for someone who's already had marriage and kids before. If my hubby were to drop dead suddenly and I was back in the dating pool again, I am ten years older than I was, I too have kids, so I wouldn't be so picky.
Anyway, good luck to you. You do what you have to do for your family; they come first. Then look around. There's always someone out there who's just for you.
2006-11-04 09:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I too am a divorced women, I remarried though over 11 years ago now, my Husband is away all the time so I would definitely date some one like you, I have lots of baggage and my husband has baggage from his previous marriage.
what I am trying to say is you are not alone in this big wide world, you will meet some one some day, miss right will turn up sooner or later, just hold in there and have faith.
2006-11-04 09:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by hotbabes_tracey 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It all sounds a bit complicated. Ladies want to date men who can spend some good time with them and treat them nice. This sounds like she'd need to make alot of sacrifices and alot of women will be put off by this. Unless it's someone you've got to know as a friend and is quite prepared to accept a relationship like this, it will probably be difficult to find someone. I don't know if you'll agree with me or not but that's what I think.
2006-11-04 11:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't - because of your being gone so much more than anything else. Also, "ex's" means more than one marriage hasn't worked out for you already, and I would want to know the reason(s) those marriages failed.
I do think someone who's never been married and has no kids might be willing to have a relationship with you, though.
2006-11-04 09:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't look at what hurdles a man has in his life, I look at what kind of man is he? Does he have a kind soul, treats his family right, hardworking, faithful, etc.... When all is said and done the right women can clear those hurdles right along side you....Have a great day.
2006-11-04 09:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Pale 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I would date some one with some of the same baggage.
My bf and me have matching baggage
2006-11-04 09:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by MamaJupe 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think most women would be looking for less baggage. That doesn't mean that they wouldn't work for the right relationship.
2006-11-04 09:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by J 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well you look for the woman to meet your needs
find a stay at home girl who likes children and doesn't mind wacthing your father if something happens to him
remember it is not all about baggage it is just how you treat your dates
2006-11-04 09:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany z 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋