we have been together for 9 years and in the last 6 month we have been split up about 5 times . but i just cant forget her and always end up going back even after meeting a really nice girl who i thought was the one . why do i keep going back ?
2006-11-04 01:41:56 · 23 answers · asked by bob a builder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you keep going back? Because you are a fool. You should be asking yourself, why do we keep breaking up? If you really want to be with her, you should deal with whatever it is that has come between you two.
Breaking up then going back to her like "everything is fine now" without addressing the problem is only going to lead to the same thing coming up again and then you will break up.... again.
or maybe you're just pu ssy whipped and too much of a loser to move on.
2006-11-04 02:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by grrandram 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think U know Y, but U don't want 2 take a step toward her not being in Ur life. She can is B there U gotta work a relationship term with her and out straight how she feels or step up N choose by yourself N stick with it. Often we get together with some1 who's not right 4 us but feels right it's up to us to take the deciding step that will initiate the course of our life's. Did U C "The Break Up" sometimes things just come 2 N end and U should let them go.
2006-11-04 01:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Nitemuse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just for the sex? Getting to know someone new takes time but it's much better than having an unhappy relationship that revolves around lust. At the end of the day you'll only make each other unhappy if you keep falling out. You need to weigh up the pro's and cons of the relationship and work out if you're right for each other. Before you know it you'll have wasted months even years of your life when you could have been with someone that truly makes you happy.
Good luck!
2006-11-04 01:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kizzy_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep going back for the secfurity the relationship offers, you know where you are with this girl and thats what draws you back, the longer you are with someone the more attatched you become leading to you feeling more safe in the relationship, sometimes though it is best to leave the safe secure world that this girl offers and venture into new things. if you have split this many time in such a short period of time then you both know that the relationships fizzled out. when an if you do split again steer clear of her for a while until you fully get over her.
2006-11-04 01:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jo. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously since you have been together for 9 years you must love each other, but since you have been together that long, why no ring? Maybe she is wanting a more stable relationship than just being a girlfriend. Sit down and talk to her. Ask her where she wants the relationship to go.
2006-11-04 01:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your habit. I know this sounds crazy, but she is what makes you comfortable. When you give up ANY habit, you have to replace it with a new habit. After nine years and no marriage, there is a reason for this. You need to break this bad "habit" and move on to something else. I'm not saying find another girl right away, you might start working out, or take up jogging or something. Good luck
2006-11-04 01:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down with her and see where you are both at with the relationship. 9 Years is a long time and sometimes it can be easy just to go back to someone who know you inside out, than to start a new relationship with someone different. It's also not fair on anyone else if you haven't given your ex and yourself enough space to move on, and then leave them to go back to your ex.
2006-11-04 05:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Aynsley G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love each other. But try to work things out properly by going to some counselling together. Sometimes relationships can get stuck on splitting up and getting bck together. One day one of you will get sick of not knowing where you stand and will leave.
2006-11-04 02:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if after 9 years you all still aren't married, then why are both of you wasting your time? Every relationship has it's problems, but if you were married you would have to learn to work them out instead of walking away and breaking up.
2006-11-04 01:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason you keep going back is because you have been with her for so long. Its what your used to. You know everything there is to know when it comes to her. Its easier and more comfortable then trying to start all over again. I have the same problem so I am speaking from experience.
2006-11-04 01:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Bright Eyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋