Before you say yes!! Read this first!! My big brother getting marriednext year but theres one thing that why should I... Me and my brother never got on and I mean never ever got on. Well a few weeks ago I went to visited my mum and my brother has just arrived home, he didn't come into the living room to say hello to me and my partner, he just went up to his bedroom. A few hours later my younger Brother(my baby) arrived home and came in and said hello and a wee chat (he's shy). He was grateful to put the bed together for us, my big brother was looking for my baby brother and happened to come in the living to look for him and not once he said hello to us. He just lefted the room. He sat in his bedroom till his fiancee collect him. If this was to continue then why should we go to his wedding?! What you think??
2006-11-04 01:40:04 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need to be the bigger person here. If you dont go, everyone will be wondering why you arent there and you will be made out to be the bad guy.
2006-11-04 01:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your big brother why he's not saying hello to you. Did something happened between you two and he ignores you since? Well, I have 3 brothers and I don't get along with one of them and I still say hello to him and he says it back. If I was you I would go up to him and say What's the problem? Maybe he has an answer why he's not saying anything to you if not oh well. Just go to the wedding for support and stay for the reception if the vibes is not right then leave. Good luck!
2006-11-04 02:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by DolphJenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, also, would go to the wedding. Have a great time and after the wedding just keep your distance. He is your brother but sometime distance is just better regardless. As far as the wedding, if you do not go that is something everyone is going to remember forever and in the long run you look like the jerk because nobody knows what truly goes on and that you may be right.
2006-11-04 02:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not only today. And people mind always change everyday.There is something reason behind his attitude to you or your partner. But may be that will change after married. Some people so stress to face their married time, I think it's happened to your brother too.
Another thing is you will get more benefit if you still keep good relationship with your brother/his partner. They will help you in the future if you have some problems.
Whatever it takes, just go to your brother's wedding party, enjoy it and try to make good relationship with your brother's new family, and see the reaction.
Good luck.
2006-11-04 01:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go to the wedding. Show him that you are not ignorant (sorry) like him and that even though he might not like or talk to you, you at least have enough respect for him to attend. If you don't go it's just something that he can hold against you in the future. Besides which you never know by going hopefully this will mean a lot to him and he might come around. At least I hope so, good luck
2006-11-04 03:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think your brother must have a long, lost twin...my brother!! Rude, no social skills, ungrateful. Thought he'd outgrow it but noooooo. If I were you I'd go to the wedding, if anything for the sake of your mum. You don't have to buy a gift because he won't appreciate it (or even if he does he won't say so) and he'll just return it. You don't have to talk to him, instead hang with your "normal" family members and family friends. Eat, drink and be merry all the while knowing he's eating, drinking and miserable. How on earth did he find someone to marry him anyways?
2006-11-04 01:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by MegD22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his sister, and no matter how he is acting....he still loves you!! If you are invited I would definitely go because if you don't, I have an idea that he will be so much more hurt than you think he will. Before the wedding I would try to communicate with him and see if you can find out whats bothering him or whats wrong. If he just ignores you then you can show him how much you mean to him by going to the wedding.
2006-11-04 02:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of us know the details of why this situation came about, but please sort out your differences before his wedding - brothers are special. If anything were to happen to your brother you would regret not having made it up with him and it would haunt you FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE......life is much too short to hold a grudge...talk about it like grown-ups. Also try talking to your future sister-in-law about it as well - maybe she could help in some way, or even your mum - this is bound to hurt your mum seeing you both like this....I know how I would feel.
2006-11-04 01:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he acts like that, then I'm affraid, he wouldn't miss you if you didn't show up, but it's YOU who would be feeling a different way about it, sence he is family.
Don'y you have a voice? Could'nt you have beeen the first to say HELLO? Couldn't you have started conversation?
The answer is: YES you could of. It's up to u if you go to the wedding or not. I just feel you'll let it eat at you if you don't show up.
P.S. are you a Cancer by any chance??
2006-11-04 01:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have had a bad day and something was bothering him. If you don't go to the wedding believe me you will be starting a family fued. You could have been the better person and gone to his room and asked him if everything is ok. Perhaps he's not sure if he wants to get married and needs to talk to someone.
2006-11-04 01:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by k h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down, or write him a letter telling him your feelings. Ask if there was something you had said to him to make him mad? You seem so uncomfortable when I am in the room, why?
Tell him your wishes- I wish we could be supportive of each other.
Tell him your feelings- I love you. I miss you.
Brothers and Sisters are the best, hope you resolve your problems. You have a year before he gets married, if you are still struggling, tell him you want to be at his wedding because you love him, and want to welcome his wife to your family, but if you do not want me there, I will go with your wishes.
2006-11-04 01:54:41 · answer #11 · answered by earinfection 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋