How do I deal with a hard headed teen?

Question

HE WAS ASK TO STAY AWAY FROM A CERTAIN GROUP OF BAD *** BOYS AND HE DIDNT LISTEN TO MOM AND WAS ARRESTED WITH THEM FOR BEING HARDHEADED AND DISOBEDIENT.

Answer 1

You have to honestly ask yourself if you contributed to it in some way, over the years. That's most often the case, statistically speaking.

Answer 2

In a word...YES. Raising a child is not just about the newborn stage. Raising a child is from before birth (the pregnancy) til age 18. At least. And there is a reason why they say newborns are hard work. They are. They are emotionally, physically, and psychologically exhausting. A new mom not only is taking care of a new person, ,they are trying to heal from childbirth, as well as keep their hormones in check. And newborns do not just sleep and eat. They cry and poop and vomit and cry some more. They need clothing changed, baths, to be rocked, talked to, and comforted. They need to be fed in the middle of the night, during the day, and whenever they say. They need lots of care and attention. Not to mention a new mom is often emotionally taxed. There are thoughts and worries that come along with raising a newborn that no one really knows about until they are a mother. And you just can't possibly know what it is like until you have children. Additionally, why SHOULD your parents have to help you? Why not use protection? Or give the baby up for adoption? There is nothing wrong with either of those choices. Why should your friends take notes for you? This is about being mature and responsible and having a baby as a teenager just isn't. If it happens, sure, you can have a good life. But you are missing out on a lot and you are also taking advantage of people who are close to you. Sure your parents would want to help, but part of having a child is being old enough to know that they are your sole responsibility and depending on others to pick up your slack is not responsible.

Answer 3

well if u just leave her alone she will eventually get herself into trouble and learn a lesson. or you can ground her or somehting, but if she is so hardheaded there is no way she is gonna listen to you. teens are stupid with the worst judgement. there is seriously nothing you can do unless you force her to see a counselor or somehting. sorrry i wans't able to help too much.

Answer 4

It depends on the situation. If your communication skills are anything like your question, I can see how you might be having problems dealing with what you determine is a hard headed teen?

More info is needed. Deal with them about what? What do you mean?

Answer 5

Listen to what they have to say and their views? Listen more than talk or they may decide not to give you an option as they are human and individuals and in the end make their own decisions.

Answer 6

okay iahve a question prior to answring this for you what is your definition of hard headed? that can be taken several ways please let me know i would be delighted to give you the answer in which your looking for
because your hradheaded may mean she does not want to do anyting bla bla bla so just clarify me please

Answer 7

Communication is the key ...Talk to him/her every chance you can to find out whats going in their head ! Most of the time its a confused head if i remember correctly ! I have two kids and it was important to always talk !

Answer 8

Well that's the million dollar question isn't it.. Try to remember what you were feeling at that age and take it from there. Good luck to you and every parent out there experiencing the joys of teenage children.. (myself included)

Answer 9

lose the battle to win the war stand your ground on which issues are more important concede ones that are not..

Answer 10

let someone who is not a relative or a "friend" of yours talk to the teen. Parents are the enemy to most teens

Answer 11

I read the other answers and it's obvious that they haven't had to deal with a hard headed teen. First, don't blame yourself for your childs behavior like the one person suggested. By the time a child gets up to that age they make their own choices and you'd ultimately be held accountable because they are minors. I've had to deal with anything that you could possibly name from all three of my children and each one had their own set of trash to put on me. My solution to the problem was to let them know that if things they do fall on my shoulders I'd make them responsible for it. What they do outside the home had better just affect them and they had best never disrespect me. I told them not to cause problems at school and don't get in trouble with the law because that would come back on me and I won't tolerate it. It's tough love and as horrible as my children became as teenagers and as much trouble as they caused themselves, they didn't get into trouble with the law or at school. Tell your teen what they do now will effect him/her being able to come around you later especially if they fall on hard times and need help. If they treat you bad enough you would say no to them staying with you or you doing anything for them. They don't think about the future themselves so you make them think about it as many times as you need to. Once they turn 18 they are legal adults--put them out. You are no longer responsible for them or what they do. Although my teens caused me many problems at home they knew where I drew the line and YOU need to have control not your teen!! As for being a "friend" and not a parent as someone else suggested, that will get you nowhere. You be their "friend" when they have left your house as an adult. Show them as much consideration and respect as they show you but don't play the role to be a buddy.