I don't think there's a chance of my finding somebody else, b/c I'll never be quite complete and happy again, therefore I'm not going to be attractive to men. I know other people break up and move on, but I take things hard. Why can't I be one of those people who just doesn't care? I really wanted this man, still want him, and don't think I"ll ever get over it. I know there are things in life that should matter other than love and sex, but I don't feel that way.
2006-11-04 01:15:37 · 7 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, my heart goes out to you. Been there, exactly there before myself. It didn't seem to help much at the time, but it's true what they say... time heals all wounds. The people who don't care as you put it will never know life the way you do. You're capable of loving so deeply and truly, that is a gift even though at times it causes suffering. Hang on and someday you'll feel someone who loves you in that manner.
2006-11-04 01:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by kritter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does take time. You never will be the same again, but you will become more secure within yourself as your life moves on (I know because I've been there). When I finally got the big picture that we are born into the world alone, and we die alone. The people who come into our lives can be blessings at times and curses at other times. But they are all lessons in the way we want to be treated and should treat others for a much fuller life. Spend time with the people (friends and family) who make you feel good as much as you can. Too many times when we are in a "couple relationship" our friend and family network get put on the back-burner anyway, so try to enjoy your "single" time as much as you can. Best of luck to you............
2006-11-04 01:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Solo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it sucks but after a while you will get over him and you will develop crushes and have feelings towards other men. As far as ever being the same, you will never feel the way you felt before you met the man that broke your heart. You are a completely different person now that has experienced the bitterness that life has to offer. Your first love is definitely a learning experience.
2006-11-04 01:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going thro whatever u did just now..
i know.. it hurts like crazy n u wish u would just die.. n its hard to get out of bed.. n u keep cryin thinkin about how he may be now.. and wondering if eh still likes u.
they call it a heartbreak.. i'd say one of the most painful things i have been through.. or anyone else.. when u let go of all your insecurities and cynicisms n hold on to someone and they leave u alone n waiting for them to come back.. it hurts..
well.. accept it hurts. cry. write about it. blog.. listen to music.. listen to your heart..
its a bad phase.. it will hurt u like crazy.. then the pain will come down.. ur heart will ache for u as much as it does for u.. u will come to terms with the other person in the breakup u never noticed so far.. urself.
love yourself.. love yourself so well that u dont carry it into any other relationships u enter henceforth..
i know i feel there is nothin more to life than love and sex. maybe there is not. dont be ashamed of feeling that way. everything in life is related to it and boils down to it anyway..
u will move on.. like someone else said.. **** happens. and u will be much stronger and better at the end of it..
u will move on, only when u want to.. just dont be hard on urself.. and accept every emotion of yours.. look at yourself in the mirror often.. some day u will fell u love yourself like noone else..
i hope u will find that day. i hope i do too.
God bless u.
2006-11-04 01:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by anamika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to move on-it just takes time. Somtimes you never completely get over someone-but you can still love again and move on. You need to find what makes you happy and alot of women don't even need a man for anything. You need to work on yourself.
2006-11-04 01:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds ....It's true and you will live thru it i promise! Surround yourself with other thing and other people and heal your heart....Hopefully you will become stronger ! I was married for 18 yrs and my ex left us on xmas eve for some girl he knew 2 weeks ! Things have a way of working out .
2006-11-04 01:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there felt that. hang in there, it hurts like hell and it seems that there is no reason to ever love again. it passes. I know it's hard to see that now, but it will get better and you will love and be loved again. Good Luck.
2006-11-04 01:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋