My brother was going out with his partner a year and a half, they now spilt, but one night we went out for a few, got back home, and then the partner got mad because the chair was in the other room which I was using, she demand me to go and get it, but I said nicely it's okay go into my room and get it, my room and the kitchen is 5 steps away. She got so mad she went and got the chair and slammed it on the kitchen floor tiles. I said why did you do that for. she went for me, then my brother he didn't know what was happened he thought i went for her and he started on me. the row was so bad. The next day I rang my parents and asked them to get me a plane ticket home, When I got home my parents had to hear two side of the story. But no I got the blame. I never spoke to my brother ever since. Now him and this girl broke up because she does nothin but give him grief. he packed his bags and lefted. Now he met a lovely girl but somehow I wish I could say to him I told you so. But!!
2006-11-04 01:11:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No worries, he knows you told him so.
Just feel gratified that even though you'll never hear your brother utter the words, "You were right", you knew all along what kind of woman his former partner really was.
As far as choosing family over a live-in partner: men will always take the side of the woman. Why? Some guys stuff their balls in their back pocket just to keep the peace.
2006-11-04 01:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you got into a bad situation with your brother's stupid witchy girlfriend. In that situation, you were only wrong because you left the chair in your room. She seems like she's particular about stuff in her house, so because you are a guest in their home, you would need to make an effort to be more thorough. She shouldn't have wigged out like that, and she should have told you what little rules she has, so you wouldn't have conflicts. No way would your brother have chosen your side. He was involved with her. You could just go back to your parents house if you wanted to. He lives there with her. He wanted to continue to have sex with her too. If he went against her, he'd be in the dog house.
You wish you could say, "I told you so"? About what? Did you ever tell him she was bad news? What is telling him going to do? Do you think he's going to be thank you for telling him 'I told you so"? He doesn't need you saying anything about her. He knows. That's why he lefted her. I mean, that's why he left. You should be glad that your brother didn't marry this girl and that he has a nice new girlfriend. You should get over it and just talk to your brother. I'm sure you two will talk again and don't get into any fights with the new girlfriend.
2006-11-04 01:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by grrandram 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, this girl obviously had big personal issues. It was her fault not yours but perhaps your brother was so under the thumb that at the time he couldn't see it! Have a chat with your brother. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't patch things up now! He knows what she's like to have left her. He may be just being stubborn as so much time has passed since you spoke and he doesn't know how to resolve it with you. Write him a letter telling him all the things you love about him and say sorry for handling the situation poorly (even though it was the girl's fault). Sometimes writing it all down is a good way of getting things accross without losing your temper!
2006-11-04 01:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to tell your brother I told you so. Things happen between family, friends, and lovers that can be forgotten. You should be happy that he is with a young lady that is good for him. You should reconcile the relationship and move on. Having open communication in EVERY relationship is important.
2006-11-04 02:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a situation that is similar to yours. My dad's side of the family do not speak to me. They do not like the man that I am married to(long story). He is a really good guy but they don't see that in him. He is 10 years older then me and do not like the fact that I am with him. When my dad died 2 years ago they still did not speak to me. What I have decided is if they want to treat their family like that then i don't need them in my life or my daughters life. It's hard but you have to be strong and stand up for what you believe in...Hope you get things worked out
2006-11-04 01:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In answer to your question... If the relationship with the partner is 90% good, I'd go with the partner, but if the relationship with the partner is 90% bad, I'd not go with the partner... family is the best choice when it's 90% bad with the partner, because I'd need my family to be there for me in the end.
If you want to tell him "I told you so", he'll now be more apt (wiser/able) to realize you told the truth.
As they say>>> "love is blind & cannot see"...sometimes, love doesn't want to see the negative side... he couldn't see (or didn't want to see) because he loved her.
Now he sees her for who & what she really is...
now he needs his family to be there for him.
If you feel you need to say I told you so, then get it out so you can have closure about the circumstances... but, he may be sore (sensitive/hurt/angry) concerning her, so watch out... he might take his anger out on you if you do bring up the subject of HER.
2006-11-04 01:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really a tough one. If he was in love with her, he'd most likely choose her side. The other side of that is, that family will almost always forgive you when you do that, because they love you too, but in a different way.
2006-11-04 01:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family comes first then after that god and other stuff. Your brother is an idiot to pick his girl first rather than his own sister. well forgive him and get back together rather than die without a brother. Family stick together girl.
2006-11-04 01:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter rather take the word of her partner than me and haven't spoken in a year, I miss her terribly and grandson, but she has her own life to live, i'm here if she wants me, but remember the old saying"Blood is thicker than water"
hope you get back on speaking terms with your brother.
2006-11-04 01:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by poetrygirl on line 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not married to that partner then stand by family, partners can come and go - if you're married the partner is family.
2006-11-04 01:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by bonzaitim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋