My sister is dead...I can't handle it...I want to be with her...I need help?

Question

The morning the hospital called and told me she was gone, I raced to her, thinking I could breath life into her. I laid with her for 2 hours, trying to open her eyes and breath into the tube that was down her throat. I couldn't bring her back. We were 11 months apart and I can't even describe how close we were. She was my only friend. I am 46 and she was 45. Everyday I think about how I want to be with her. I had a dream the other day that she came to me. She told me how beautiful heaven is and wanted me to go with her. I was going to go, but I woke up. I was so disappointed. I cannot stop crying. If anyone can help me, please do.

Answer 1

Wow, I am really sorry. Sometimes God takes people away from us because he wants to get to know them and see their beatuy that you saw in them. Don't worry, you'll be with her oneday. Try not to think about it and if it doesn't work, than find a hobby, meet more people and ofcourse don't let her slip out of your mind--she's your sister and right now she is guarding youand would only want you to be happy, sure it is really upsetting! Espically when you're really close, spend some time with other family members, visit her grave andtalk to her before you sleep and when you wake...as if she is right there...cause she is! She is listening and being with you...but only in Heaven! I am sorry once again! Here 2 Help!

Answer 2

there is no need for counceling there is no need for anything. time is key when it comes to a death in the family especially when you were with them for 45 years of your life, if you want to cry, then cry. you cannot hide your emotions at this point as it is too soon. eventually you need to look at what she wanted you do to, how she would want you to carry on with your life and what she wanted you to achieve. if you had a hobbie that you had with her then you can turn it into something bigger, a death in a family can be a turning point to a person it can make you stronger and help you achieve more in your life.

make sure that you understand that shes in a better place, everyone day will go to a better place one day, it happens everyday, every hour every second.

once you can cope and have gone through this you can try and help other people in the same situation and help them get through there troubles. i hope all the best for you and your sister.

i hope i helped you out

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that your sister has moved on and that you were not present when she left. It must be very hard for you especially when she was close to you and the fact that she is also younger than you. It is hard not to think about her and you are journeying in the way that she has gone even in your dreams. We all have to leave this earth as we are temporarily here and now may not be your time yet. For your sister, it was time and the Lord called her. Pray for her and also for yourself that someday you will all meet again. It is wonderful that you have touched based with her and she is in heaven! So, she is with God now so she is well taken care of. You have to think of your health now and live life to the fullest until it is time for you to leave. Find things for you to keep yourself occupied, meet your friends and spend time with them, join a church group or an activity to keep you going. Remember the good times you spend with your sis. They will always remain with you but you have to move on and not stay depressed all the time. Will pray for your strength.

Answer 4

Hi,
I'm sorry that I don't have any answers for you at a time like this in your life but I just wanted to let you know that I am so sorry about your loss.
Please try to remember something though: people never die as long as you keep them alive in your thoughts and cherish the memories that you made together.
Keep those times close to your heart and treasure the memories forever...they will help you get through all this.
Good luck to you and may God Bless you in your time of need.

Answer 5

First I am truly sorry to hear about your lose I know that its hard but you must realize that you cannot give in to any thoughts of suicide, these dreams are evil even though they seem peaceful the devil will use your bond with your sister to deceive you into doing something that will keep you from being with your sister. You still have people that care about you and need you . And remember that your sister is with you always and that she would want you to be strong and to carry on in your life happy and treasuring the memories the two of you had.

Answer 6

Hi! I had a sister who died of lung cancer 23 years ago... she was very young 16 and I was 20 that time. She was the youngest and the family darling...so young. The family was devastated, my mother was beyond consolation and I was too. I wished it was me who died. But I realized later that God must have allowed that to happen as he planned. He spared my angel sister from the hardships in the world by taking her back to heaven to be with Him. He has a plan for me. I now work as a teacher and I guide the little ones. I am a friend and a sister to the mothers. I feel that I am doing what the Lord wanted me to do. I believe that I will see my sister again in His time. Don't despair...when you look at your friends, people around you, people who are in need, see your sister in them. Share your love....just as you would to your sister.

Answer 7

you need time for this.
if it really is too much to handle i would consider counseling.
i lost my father 2 months ago and its still hurting every day.
it is difficult to live with the pain of loosing a loved one but there is no other way.
you just have to give that pain a place in you're life and learn how to live with it.
the healing progres of loosing a loved one can take a very long time and maybe it never goes away totally bit giving it place in you're life helps a bit to go on with you're own life making you're self happy again.
you're sister is in a better place now where she is happy but she would feel sad if you don't try to go on, if she see that you keep living in the pain, in the memory's and its not good to do that.

Answer 8

I am so sorry! Please-keep this in mind! She did not commit suicide-if you do, you might NOT go to the same place she is! Go on with your life and instead of grieving, try to enjoy and laugh twice as much-carrying her part with you! And continue reaching out to others, just as you did today. See how many people care? Volunteer, when you feel better. Help others, find more friends. We all care about you!

Answer 9

Ur sister loved and still does LOVE u she would not want to see U like this Cheer up I know just "CHEER UP" sound pretty harsh But time will heal ur heart i know U loved her VERY MUCH,just cry it all out U will never stop loving,thinkning about or missing ur sister,but U said she had a tube,I know how U feel,Ur glad she's out of the misary she was in,but U still miss her!!! I will pray for U,GOD loves U and He will help U!!!!!!

Answer 10

aw girl, i know exactly how you feel, i went through the same thing when my brother died. He left my house one afternoon, a few hours later i get a phone call saying he's been murdered. Time heals girl, it really does, that was 13 years ago, it took me alot of years before i could live with that. But you do get to that point i promise, the first thing you need to do, and really no one can give you advice on how to handle death, its something you have to deal with yourself, only talking with others will help, but one thing i can tell you to do to make you feel alittle better is sit down and write her a letter, tell her everything you want her to know, not trying to sound weird here, but im telling you it helps. You can email me if you want i will help you get through cuz i been there. Or if you have yahoo, send me and im......God bless ya girl....