My husband's sister doesn't like me (reason unk) and everytime I am around her she makes sure I know it. When I make conversation with her she either stares as if I said nothing or responds with, "Yeah" or "OK". Sometimes she will blatantly just make a smart remark in front of the whole family in order to embarass me. I am still kind to her, but I am also at my boiling point. AND my husband says nothing and makes excuses for her like, "Oh she's just like that!" or "She's just in a bad mood." But I don't believe in treating people that way. I would probably respect her decision of not liking me if maybe she would justify her reasons. And I'm POSITIVE I have done nothing to offend her. It's been this way since I met her. She actually said absolutely nothing (just stared at me) the first time I introduced myself to her. She even once told me not to bring any food to a family Christmas party and when we showed up, it was a potluck dinner. I was the ONLY person without a dish!!! Any advice?
2006-11-04 00:15:28 · 18 answers · asked by Ginnabee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She sounds rotten inside. I would go the extra mile and ask her to step outside for a moment. I would then say to her "I don't know what I have done to make you not like me but I would appreciate it if you would explain it to me" if you don't get any answer then say "I am trying to understand your position here but now I know your just an unhappy person and I will still be polite to you regardless of how you treat me". Doing this puts you on the high road above her, she knows your not going to play the game and leave it at that. I do think your husband should of done something before now, maybe she is unstable and needs medical help. If you can't do this then wait and sucker punch her as she enters a room. lol not really.
2006-11-04 00:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a classic Bit**. Why do you allow her to treat you this way. If she doesn't like you, then she doesn't like you. Who knows why, and more importantly who cares. You know how she is going to react to you, but for whatever reason you keep trying to be civil to her. Stop it. Ignore her. If there's another family get together, ask someone else if you need to bring something, not her. Just stay clear of her and stop trying to have a conversation with her. She can't treat you like crap if you don't let her. Her family obviously knows she has issues and tolerate it. There's nothing you can do about it. Some people are just mean. Go to the family functions and talk to the people that do like you, not the one that doesn't.
P.S. - You can confront her if you want, but nothing you say to her is going to make her respect you. She probably doesn't even know why she doesn't like you. She's just a miserable person and don't let her make you miserable too.
2006-11-04 00:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How brave are you? The next time your together at a family function, I would stand up in front of the family and tell them you have something to say, and proceed to address little Ms Rude telling her that whatever you have done to offend her, you are sorry. But you think it is very rude for her to continue to treat you with disrespect. And just plain mean to tell you not to bring a dish, when it was a potluck dinner.
2006-11-04 00:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there and is never went away. But it is my husbands brothers girlfriend. She is a real *****. She isn't even married in and she already is so rude. She has two kids and married to another man, not my brother in law. She has told my husband that I cheated on him and that I have told her I wanted a divorce, which is not true at all. She always buts her nose in where it is none of her business. She has told my mother in law so many lies that she doesn't even like me any more. I try to kill her with kindness, but it is really hard. Luckily we live 1500 miles away. Talk to your husband, he is supposed to support you, and if he doesn't say anything on your behalf, quit going to his family events or visits. As your husband it is his duty and obligation. Good Luck.
2006-11-04 00:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by katbeek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a shame, it seems she has a chip on her shoulder. what would your husband say if you did tell her off(would hate to see your relationship be ruined)is it possible the sister is trying to ruin it? have you tried talking to her? find out why shes acting like this. definitely talk more of it to you husband, if he knows it hurts so bad, why wont he help you. and if he wont help then maybe you will have to stay away from her, for awhile. or just pretend when you are around her that what she says just doesn't bother you....
iam very sorry you have to go through this..
2006-11-04 00:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by CINTHIA C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to stand up for you here. There's plenty of times when one should not get in the middle of things, but this isn't one of them...you are his wife. Whatever is making this girl not like you (and more than likely it has nothing whatsoever to do with you and everything to do with how she perceives herself), your husband needs to take a stand and stand by you. If you can't make him understand that, then it's okay to choose to avoid the situations until he sees how uncomfortable it makes you.
2006-11-04 00:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by SDC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things to deal with in life is family.
But that does not extend to in laws.
So you must make a hard decision.
You can stand up for yourself and put this girl in her place and risk hurting your relationship with your husband.
or you can just swallow your pride and let her continue to show you no respect.
My advice to you is to put an end to this now.
But before you do, make sure your mom and dad will have your back.
Your sister in law's behavior is totally unacceptable and you should make it crystal clear that it will not be tolerated.
I wish you the best.
2006-11-04 00:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP trying to make her like you, use a little reverse psychology it's time for you to ignore her, pretend she's not in the room with you , don't initiate talk with her don't bother with holidays and her get everyone else a gift but her (for now) she will begin to come to you and want to talk to you. There is nothing worse than rejection to get someones attention, human nature , we always want what we don't have. Just try it for a while but don't give in on her first attempt to get close to you make her earn your friendship.
2006-11-04 00:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by neganelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ginnabee one thing you should know is that you are married to you husband but not to the sister. try not to take note of what ever she says or does for sometime and see how you will feel. if that one does not work just put her aside and ask her what her problem is but do this with enough courage and not with anger.good luck
2006-11-04 00:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by kakimbiri doris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
openly put the ball in her court,,when you next see her to talk to ,,try one last time and then just say,,"right,thats it,,,i get it,,you dont like me,,i give up" then just walk off,,she then knows to go after you and say something to better the situation or you basically both know from now on you are not going to speak,,you cant go on trying so give yourself a break,,we cant like everyone but if she does like you but just doesnt show it she has the option to explain. at least you wont feel so bad if the two of you dont talk because you and she have a sort of understanding and you can just keep things civil,thats it.
2006-11-04 00:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋