Could this be difficult relationship wise. I don't know if his family would accept me. Has anyone had experience with this? Also wouldn't want to convert. I shoiuld just add that he is westernised and lives in London and doesn't wear their traditonal dress etc. Thank you.
2006-11-03 23:53:08 · 33 answers · asked by Charlene 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be ver dyfficult, depending on how accepting both of your families are. But if you love him...go for it.
2006-11-03 23:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Yes it can be very difficult. A completely different mentality to deal with and understand. They live their religion (they don't just visit on Sunday). You say you don't want to convert but you haven't even met his family yet so you cannot say what pressures they would bring to bear should they give the go ahead to the relationship and once you convert you cannot "unconvert" and any children you have will be Muslim, and they will not be allowed to "unconvert". You might be subject to Syariah law should there be a divorce (check with boyfriend about this and then do some private checking of your own to verify if he told you the truth). They are allowed four wives - are you willing to share? He might say he won't marry another one but there is nothing you can do if he did decide to do so later. Appearing westernised means nothing....it's the family influence, and the religious influence that you should always always bear in mind. Asian peoples are very family oriented and a wife's wishes are more often than not subordinate to the welfare of his blood relatives.
Don't be naive, open your eyes. In the existing climate where Islam is a hyper sensitive issue due to the Afghan and Iraq problem, even angels would fear to tread, where you're contemplating on going.
I married outside my own culture and moved away from my family and country......if had my time over again, I would never do it in a thousand years.
2006-11-04 01:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by JonBovi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have lived in yemen for three years and saw that lot of this kind of relationsships break down after a while but some also work. Therefore, I think you should check out his family and how they live the religion. As long as he is not planning to go to an arab country you will be fine. Because then normally a lot of these relationsships are not modernized anymore. Good luck!
2006-11-05 06:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by whyme? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a requirement in a muslim marriage is that the non muslim has to go through a crash course on the religion b4 he is allowed to get married. Also when they do get married, a muslim name has to be given to the one who is a non muslim. However, if one does not want to go through those kinds of rituals then a civil wedding (not marrying in a religious setting)is sufficient but then again, the laws of a country varies where muslims are concern. I believe they have a separate law regarding muslim marriages. Of course this is only the beginning...what if there are children involved? What religion will they be committed to? Do check it out b4 making commitments.
2006-11-04 01:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by singirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a muslim, born in london married to a christian, i do not believe to be honest we have ever had any conflicts apart from arguments about the cd that plays in the car?
one this i will say is that if you are in love with him, it seems to be going alright so far and if he loves you enough aswell then i do not see a problem.
regarding family, well if you love him enough to make him number one and he does not extend you the same courtesy, then it will be a difficult relationship anyway regardless of religion
2006-11-04 03:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by spongeford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes alot of time to understand each other, but its possible,
How?
Coz im muslim and wife is same as you are. Both of us from uk.
I accepted her for the person she was, and if thats the case with you two, then goodluck, although I must also say my wife has converted to islam but she is very very moderate.
We have a lovely daughter from our realtionship, we have got more than just christmas to celebrate infact we celebrate every ocassion mutually acceptable in both religions.
So we have christmas and eid and many more.
The teachings of both religion guide us to become a better human, its just the way people think and believe.
I can see a good future of you two, but see if his family can accept you from the begining. Getting to know the families before marriage helps alot, Trust Me.
2006-11-04 01:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by soa210 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok; if you both have the same ideas about life; i mean if both of you agree on the way you want to live; your lifestyle; how you are going to raise your children; and most of all; both of you must respect the other's religion with all its details; of course love should be there; but be sure to discuss all the details; because its not always easy to take someone from another religion; still both Muslims and Christians are close in certain things; and both believe there is only one god; so its easier than marring a Buddhist
2006-11-04 00:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet the family and then decide what role Muslim law plays in it. If he has any brothers try to determine what kind of life their wives have. Some Muslim men are "westernized" but still expect certain things of their wives that are not.
I'd tread this path very carefully...
2006-11-04 00:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't! This is a case where you need to use your head rather than your heart.I know that love is love, but this will cost you more in the long run than just letting him go. It's better to avoid the problems that will come from this. Grit your teeth and do what you have to do.
2006-11-04 00:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible.
if his family accept you and say you are good to marry with him than there is one problem(if you are very religious) at the moment you marry Islamic than you have to say that Jesus is not the son of god, that he is just a profeet for the people who are very religious that can be a problem.
if you don't marry Islamic than there is no problem but for the most Muslim people that is the most important.
if his family does not accept you than its a Mather of his religion if he is very religious than he will not marry you.
i hope everything turns out to be OK
good luck
2006-11-04 00:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by kelleke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses now or spend a miserable life. Our neice married Muslim, very different from her raising... when they had children, she converted to keep peace... really wasn't optional. Very different culturally & spiritually. Just because he doesn't dress the part, doesn't mean he has abandoned his raising. Do your homework...
Be blessed!
2006-11-04 00:04:42 · answer #11 · answered by ramzee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋