2006-11-03 23:48:05 · 7 answers · asked by Raywilson G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because it promotes angst and unrequired and harmful competiton amongst the siblings.
The one being referred to as inferior might feel depressed about his status in the family, after all, parents are most of all that he can depend on. This might cause him to form an inferiority complex, he might lose his confidence and will have a lot of hate and anger bottled up in his head.
2006-11-03 23:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by abhas1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would be okay if your doing it in a "constructive critisizim" way. Iy would be okay if your tryong to instruct the other child on how to go about being better at something. Its all about how you do it. My mother did that to me and I resent her soooo much or it. She always say "Well your brother wouldnt do that" if I do what I want and not what SHE wants. Always bragging about him but not about me, oh my son never smoked, and never cursed at me, oh my son is so good. Then she paints this picture to the whole family of what a monster I am. Tell them oh she smokes, she drinks, she tells me off, she curses. Okay yea I do those things, Im grown. Yea I tell her about herself because if I dont she will manipulate the hell out of someone. The point is dont be so obvious with your favoritism, the kids know it. I knew it, its not fair you have 2 children love them equally. You wouldnt want your child to hate or resent you. My brother was gay and died of AIDS and tht was her biggest secret did she run around bragging about that. I made a home for my kids and I kept a job since I was 17 and I have several vocational certificates. Im also in college for nursing, did she run around bragging about that. Now she older and has to live with me she cant see and uses diapers, totally dependent upon me. I resent her even worse. Im too young to stuck doing this, especially after the way she treated me. Im sorry I had to use your question to vent. Thanx for the points. But this is a great example why you dont compare kids or play favortisim. If you compare a child make sure you do it nicely and not as an insult by throwing something in their face. we remember that crap.
2006-11-04 09:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a rule that parents shouldn't compare their children ('siblings'...) with each other. Of course they could and of course they do. Sometimes they do it to motivate the naughty children to behave like the good-mannered ones. Overcomparing, however, could lead to low self-esteem and jealousy amongst the children. The children would feel like they're not being treated unfairly.
2006-11-04 08:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by yellowscissors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an old age rule, that allegedly causes unfair competition, and turmoil amongst the children.
Everyone has a different personality, and everyone has different capabilities.
Comparison can actually promote healthy competition, and help children work on issue which may be of difficulty for themselves.
2006-11-04 08:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each child is unique. You make them feel like they aren't good enough. You make them feel like they can never make you proud. All a child needs is a parent's love and approval.
2006-11-04 13:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by kaluah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each individual is different and if you compare one
to another you will make them feel inadiiquate
2006-11-04 07:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you mean their children? because this one would feel inferior to that one. and for some kids all the happiness that keeps them going is from their parents.
2006-11-04 07:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by -tima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋