hi,my ex and i split up a few months ago and out of the blue he has sent me an e-mail saying he still cares.my parents thought he was shifty and so did i in fact,he was a lot older and my window cleaner.he wasn't very intelligent and also pressured me a lot to begin with.the e-mail is very sweet and i am a good person and i don't want to feel i have hurt him by not replying.he wants to be my friend and says we both weren't ready for a relationship when we got together.do i reply or not??? please help!!!
2006-11-03 23:41:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound too sweet and naive (no offence meant, promise) for this sly shifty old fox of a window cleaner, so no, don't reply...also, if you mention his lack of intelligence and culture, this means it's an issue for you, and rightly so, so there's no ground for a relationship of any kind there, and you're clearly not comfortable with the idea of getting back in touch with the man. Move on, sweetie, and feel not guilty!
2006-11-04 00:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're not that keen.
You did say he wasn't very intelligent and he pressured you a lot to begin with. Also you're parents thought he was shifty and he was a lot older.
Don't have a relationship with someone out of pity, or because you are scared of hurting their feelings.
Either reply and say 'no, i don't want a relationship'
or don't reply
2006-11-03 23:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should reply only if you feel comfortable doing so. I would (if I were the one with this situation) reply to his email and tell him exactly what I was thinking. Sometimes people really just want to know exactly how you feel, instead of beating around the bush. If you want to be his friend, that is a decision you have to make. But, if you feel sketchy about replying, then don't reply. That does not make you a bad person if you do decide not to reply. Just ask yourself, "Will this friendship be more work than it's worth? Would I feel comfortable being his friend?" Good luck to you hun.
2006-11-03 23:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out how you feel about the guy. I surmise that you don't feel anything for him anymore except for pity. If you don't want to have a relationship with him whatsoever, then thank him for the email and say that you are not interested in having a relationship with him anymore. You could also mention whether you want a friendship with him, depending on how you feel about having him as just a friend.
2006-11-04 00:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by yellowscissors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reply and be nice but not miss leading. Ask yourself if you still want to be friends and if you do let him no, if not then let him down gently and say that you feel it would cause you too much pain too be friends. Even if you do become friends he will soon back off if you get with someone else. Just make sure you dont lead him on.
2006-11-04 00:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by babie v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now first of all he is ur ex..so dat means u were in a relationship with him once...now was dat relation 2 sided or did u jus say k to mak him happy....It all depends on u..wat do u feel?do u feel u should reply to him?If ya-den go ahead...u may never know he mite really jus wanna b ur frnd...if so ur gaining a good frnd...if no..jus forget it and dont reply else jus send him a mail saying ur not interested in a nice way so that he doesnt get hurt...
2006-11-03 23:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A response will of any kind will offer further encouragement to this person , if there is a reason why you split up , it's likely to still be an issue so I would steer clear of this one . Be careful you may have a stalker ?
2006-11-03 23:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not respond to the email. Don't worry about hurting him. He broke up with you, after all. You don't need a shifty, unintelligent window washer in your life.
2006-11-03 23:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by catherine02116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you reply express that in which you feel and ler him know that in order to be friends you still need your space from him. Of course thats if you want to be friends with the guy. good luck
2006-11-03 23:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋