whats the best way to get my 4 yr old into a sleeping pattern?

Question

He refuses to sleep in his own bed, i work 10 hrs a day so im always too tired to put up with the screaming when i put him in his own bed. i have tried laying with him and reading stories and singing to him, but i always end up having to lay there until he is asleep which usually takes up to and hour and a half. then i fall asleep there anyways. i really need him to go to his own bed please help,
thanks for all answers in advance.........:)

Answer 1

First you have to have a strict bedtime routine. Then when you have a long weekend (3 days should do it) and are ready follow your routine. And with a hug & kiss walk out the door. When the he comes out of the room...no drinks or snacks or distractions:
1. Tell him good night firmly (but with a nice tone) and put him back in bed.
2 Tell him good night again, a bit more firmly. (do not get angry it feed energy into the situation...not good)
3-? Just take him back to the bed and say nothing.

After a while he Will go to sleep. It will only take a few days less than you think actually. Just stick to it. I saw this method on the show SuperNanny and my friend tried it and it worked like a charm.

In our house when our kids were little my husband put them to bed...if I tried to put them to bed I was in there for hours...I hated not being able to put them to bed but the alternative was worse...plus it always gave them Daddy time...Good luck!

Answer 2

Unfortunately, there is no way to do it other than to consistently (whether you are tired or not) put him into his bed.

We had to do it with our girls. About 1000 times for the first one, a little less (maybe 900) for the second.

He'll scream, he'll fuss, he'll cry and plead and beg and say he's scared of the dark (give him flashlight), he'll do anything he can to not go to sleep. Do it anyway, it will be best for you and for him in the long run. Try to see the long term picture instead of his fussing right now.

Answer 3

I can speak from experience having a daughter that had difficulty settling herself to go to sleep and also waking easily during the night and coming into our bed. The thing that finally worked for us was to have her get her own pillow and blanket and then she had permission to sleep on the floor next to our bed. This seemed to comfort her in knowing we were nearby and then she felt safe. Remember two things in parenting:
1. Consistancy is the key
2. This too will pass
Good luck :)

Answer 4

i had two kids 2 years apart, and i too was very tired at the end of the day. i read to them and sang to them, and i fell asleep on the floor between their two beds. their giggles would wake me up. this went on until my daughter was 7 and then she didnt want me in her room at bed time. Same for my son. 2 years later when he reached 7 he no longer wanted me past the good night kiss and hug. Now they are 23 and 21, and i miss those days. try to remind yourself that this is temorary

Answer 5

be consistant set a bed time and stick to it and limit drinks and snacks before bed it will take 3-7 day but as soon as he learns hes not the boss he will get it and dont give in also i have 1 planed night to let the kids sleep on the sofa and that works to give them something to look forward to and by the way they dont sleep in there beds by themselfs rest of the week they dont get to sleep on the sofa good luck

Answer 6

use the supernanny technique. Put your child to bed tell them that its bed time give them a kiss and leave. If your child gets out of bed just say its bedtime (don't engage in conversation) and put them back to bed. If they get out of bed again just put them back to bed without saying anything. (this will take a while to become effective but dont give up because it works in the end) Consistency is key

Answer 7

you need to be firm - use controlled crying, leave him in his room and then return on regular basis and reassure him that you will be back - this may take about a week or so.
Need to be persistant - and only 1 story, a cuddle and a kiss, use a night light for reassurance - but then leave - by 4 they should be in a routine and settling themselves to sleep - my son who is 3 plays in his room after i have settled him and gets into bed when he feels tired - usually about 10 mins after as its dark and he cant see.
Persistance and patience are the keys!!!

Answer 8

She's the two searching for interest and feels it is the only way she would be ready to get it. She's tried crying and it fairly works!! so she keeps at it. try coaching her different the thank you to get ur interest, like asking or particularly of "i can not do it" and crying, enable her be responsive to a extra effective way is to declare something like " that's confusing, i choose help". ( u can help her by way of telling her the place to start..."initiate with making ur mattress, while that's executed enable me be responsive to". some young ones, consistent with hazard a midsection new child undertaking, choose extra interest than others...i became like that, and that i might throw temper tantrums and mouth off to get it whether it became detrimental interest. no longer that ur favoring her, yet do no longer overlook the "Sarah, ur doing a great activity". try letting her be responsive to that that's confusing for u to be sure her crying each and every of the time...tears are ok sometimes, yet no longer each and every of the time. She desires to apply words!

Answer 9

Buy him a new comforter and some new sheets and make his sleep a pleasure. This might cost $70 plus tax but it will work.

Answer 10

based on research: offer milk or apples before bedtime