Do you have to buy an engagement AND wedding ring?

Question

We're strapped for cash and i didnt know if you have to buy both rings-- im the girl and i dont need both, i'd like it sure but honestly i'd be JUST fine being married to him...so whats the difference between the rings? and when he proposes, can you just keep the ring he gives you until/for the wedding? can he propose with the wedding ring? i know you can do what you want either way, but whats the "right way" to go about this...? what would you do in either situation? (guy or girls point of view)

Answer 1

It's not about the ring. Buy a fridge or couch instead. Your man will agree. Then one day when you get a bit of money together, buy a ring.

Answer 2

It's totally up to you. A lot of people get an engagement ring and then a wedding band, some don't do either! You can absolutely use the ring he proposes with as your wedding band, and he can propose with whatever he wants (and whatever you want). You always have the option of getting new rings down the road sometime when you have more money, if you feel like you're missing out by not getting a big rock now. It's meant to be a symbol of your commitment to each other--so it's up to you what you want to use and what you want to spend. Don't buy something you can't afford just to do what everyone else does--it isn't worth it.

Answer 3

Okay...so you know you can do whatever you want. So I'll tell you how tradition goes. The man proposes with the engagement ring which is now normally a solitaire diamond ring. However, it used to be just a pave band (flat diamond chips encrusted in a simple band) back in the 1800's and earlier.

The man also buys the brides wedding band, traditionally just a solid gold band. And the woman buys the groom's wedding band, also traditionally a solid band. So that's tradition.

One idea is to get just the wedding band for now...maybe a pave (pah-vay) band for a little sparkle if you like that. Then maybe on your first or fifth or tenth wedding anniversary he could get you a diamond solitaire ring (late engagement ring sort of). :0)

In any case, you can do what you want...but you know that. Congratulations! :0)

Answer 4

I'm engaged. I don't have a ring right now. It's sort of a long personal story but, it's okay! I know the ring is around. It's just not on my finger. It will have a fake diamond in it though made out of cubic zarconia. The wedding ring will have a real diamond in it. Maybe you could do that too. Save the real diamond for the wedding and use the cheap immitation for the engagement or the other way around. Does it really matter?

Answer 5

Rings are not important, love, commitment, honesty and all are the important part.
No ring can define what your heart feels.
He can propose without a ring and if you want wedding rings for your wedding ceremony, then you get them together.
I know plenty of women who did not get engagement rings and have "lived happily ever after".
Just make sure you give yourselves enough time before the wedding to iron out some of your financial problems otherwise that will cause stress in your relationship.

Answer 6

Engagements are supposed to be emotional and therefore people feel that the most emotional way to propose to a lady is by presentig her a ring. As far as I am concerned, ring or no ring when you are in love everything around bot of you becomes emotionally attached to you. If the cash is not there, then there is not much to worry about. Just be happy that he has proposed and that he honestly means it. The ring does not actually prove how much he loves you. Most guys even use it to decieve girls into thinking that they love them. Just accept what you get as long as it is given with LUV.

Answer 7

I told my husband that I did not need the engagement ring - we would like to buy a house, we are not super-well-off, and I would prefer that we keep ourselves as out of debt as we possibly can. Considering those things, an engagement ring seemed like a complete waste of money and an expense that would go against our goals and dreams, rather than toward them.

We do (both) have wedding bands. We both wear them all of the time - and I am glad that we have them. And I am totally glad that we don't have the debt that would have gone along with an engagement ring.

Answer 8

Me and my fiance went and picked out a ring. He proposed to me with that ring and i've been wearing it since then as my engagement ring. But i will also use it as my wedding ring. That means, i'll have to take it off for the wedding and have him put it back on my finger.
So to answer your question:
No, you don't need to have an engagement AND a wedding ring.

The ring is more like a wedding band though. I never wanted a big rock/diamond.

Answer 9

If he can't afford both, save the ring for the wedding ceremony. Not everyone has engagement rings. But don't use the wedding ring for the engagement.

Answer 10

sweetie, how refreshing to answer a question that is not selfish. before my hubby & i were married, he was strapped too. i told him , not to worry about engagment ring,i don`t remember being embarrassed by just saying,i didn`t want one, we had better use for the money.because , unless he really goes into debt- you`re not going to impresss anyone,even then you`ll have some who`ll wonder if it`s fake.thru the years he`s bought me diamonds, i really don`t care for them-it`s really just a con , the diamond industry made up years ago. diamonds are also the worst investment there is, the gold in the band-not worth much at all,too many other metals. but defintly do get a wedding ring.just tell him you`ll let him give it to you on your 10th anniversary(your diamond)

Answer 11

The great thing about weddings is that there is no absolute right way to do them. As long as you have a license, and a certified officiant (minister, justice, etc.), you can do whatever you wish. If both of you are compfortable with only a wedding band, that is all that matters. Spend the money on something more practical.