My partner has a very low sex drive and I have a high sex drive. It makes me feel like he is not attracted to me coz it's unusual for a man to not be interested in sex. We have been in a relationship 2 and a half years. I love him but often end up feeling down and neglected. I want to feel desired by the man I love. Do we have a future together?
2006-11-03 22:45:43 · 36 answers · asked by looloo395 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes...you are describing many long term marriages...
2006-11-03 22:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do feel sorry for you ! Here you are coming into a time in your life where sex will be at it's best for you and a partner Different things can cause a man to have a low sex drive. Stress is one of the worst ! Gaining weight can also be a factor. Blood pressure and other physical traits can come into play. Unless he is willing to check out what the problem is the only choice you have is to accept what you have, Talk to him. Explain to him your side. Work together for the betterment of your relationship.
2016-05-21 22:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there as well and I agree the answer is NOOOO! Don’t make the mistake of thinking that sex is not important. If you of you has a high sex drive like needs it minimally every day, then sex WILL become an issue down the line. If you love each other enough they do have medication for those issues these days cause there are a lot of relationships in this predicament.
2006-11-03 22:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, possibly you don't have a future together. I was in a marriage like that all through my 30's when my sex drive was very high. I wish i'd got out sooner. I found that while i was upstairs waiting for him to come up he was downstairs looking at porn. There may be other issues about why he has a low sex drive, but if i were you i wouldnt stay. I really wish i hadnt!
2006-11-03 23:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is NO. the truth of the matter is sex makes up about 80% of a relationship and it's essential to spend time getting to know your partner before you make that commitment. the reality of life is..If you ask people that cheat on their partner why?, they will tell you not enough sex. here's my view on this. If you and your other half love one each other, you should want to please each other. A person in a relationship doesn't have to be in the mood to want to please their partner, this should come natural for the person doing the pleasing. If two people are in tune with one another, sending your best friend to bed with a smile on their face doesn't take long anyway so why not?! it doesn't have to be some long drawn out, 4 hour chore if you know your partner and that's the key, learn your other half! I don't know how to say this any other way but to give you a intimate example so please excuse me if I offend you. Myself, just like all other men, are not always in the mood (although getting them to admit this takes an act of god) but when my partner gives me those signals that we all are supposed to know, I have the option to act stupid and go to sleep or to take care of my partners needs. I'll give her 2 or 3 oral orgasms within a 15 to 20 minute session and shes happy and I set myself up with several acomplishments. 1. she's happy with me, 2. I just showed her how much she means to me. 3. She knows that I put her feelings and needs first and formost and 4. when I'm in the mood to just lay back and enjoy, she has no problem catering to my needs and last, I get to go to bed knowing that I was able to pleased her and that I just made me feel good that I could do this for her. oh yea, the flip side of the record is... if your partners needs are met at home, theres no need to roam.
2006-11-03 23:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think in the long run no i have a very high drive and any relashionship i ever had with a girl with a low drive always ended in tears because we both wanted different thing ie me 2/3 poss 4 times a day she once a week if lucky i did not stray but it ended under the stress good luck my lady
2006-11-04 21:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everything else in this world:
It depends.
It depends on if he has the other traits you need. If his lack of sex drive translates into lack of "cuddle time" or intimacy then you are doomed. If he is very affectionate but just not sexual, um does he have a one or two very, er, close male friends?
Hate to say this, but I know a woman who was so much in love. He was a great cuddler, took her dancing, impeccable dresser, etc. He was a true blue Republican, evangelical and all pardon the pun, but as queer as a three dollar bill. She was in a sense being used to bolster his image as a, er, "straight shooter".
I have no have no desire to say no, but check out other aspects of his life.
2006-11-03 23:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. If you have a good relationship otherwise (not just sex) then yeah i spose its possible to stay together but if theres nothing else there go find a man that can give u what u need.
2006-11-03 23:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by mistress_cat_in_boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's happened to me. My wife has a low sex drive and we have been married 29 years. Just persevere and it will work out OK in the end. In my case I found that patience is the key as I eventually got my wife to talk about it. Good luck.
2006-11-03 22:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by paul b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same as you do. I have now been with my husband for 17 years and we are very happy. I would say to you to get some toys and use them when hes in bed with yo. They cant resist playing with you works every time. Yes we are happy and his sex drive does get better if we go out in the car to.
2006-11-03 22:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because your partner has a low sex drive, does not mean he don't love you. Because he probable do, and more than you'll ever know. I'm also pretty sure that there is something that he can take to enhance his libido. Talk to him about this, he may surprise you.
2006-11-03 22:50:37 · answer #11 · answered by Cas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋