Girls say "I'm too nice." or "I'll get a nice girl some day."
Does that mean I need to become an **** to get a girl?
Why is it so unattractive to be a nice guy these days?
2006-11-03 22:33:36 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
19 years old,
former athlete,
at uni,
spent a while doing volunteer work
been single 2 years,
never had serious girlfriend,
look and sound like a bigger hugh grant (apparently)
2006-11-03 22:41:18 · update #1
If you want to see what I have got up to, or not as the case may be, then look on my profile on www.travelpod.com, username lloydo3671. You can check out my funny pics as well...
2006-11-04 00:28:06 · update #2
nice guy=very sexy.if i was 10yrs younger your search would be over lol keep lookin huni you,ll find her xx
2006-11-03 23:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a buddy that way.. He's the nice guy in the group no matter what. It's not about being an azz hole, it's about the edge. It's about confidence and not letting her get away with everything. Hold her accountable.. When you meet a girl dont be soo interested as if your ready to wife her up... Show her you have your own shat goin on she will step in your world without having to ask. Walk with good posture but not stiff. Dress casual or dress down in situations just to be different unless in a formal setting... then dress like your a fricken millionair.. You cant be a pushover and you need a little testosterone (sp?) in you to get rid of that "nice guy role".. If you are comfortable with who you are and have REAL confidence but still the nice guy, then I suggest go to church and find a girl there because they have the same problem. Most women that believe in Jesus get the bad rap of being a goody girl.. you know.. going to church just means they understand whats going on in life a little more than someone else. It doesnt mean they're freeks and dont live normal lives. It's good to be the nice guy because eventually youll be the one totally happy and not divorced in 5 years or less. Grow some testicals and the women will notice...
2006-11-03 22:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you that being a nice guy is not what's keeping you single. It is the girls you are meeting, for what ever reasons or issues they have is not your problem don't think changing you is going to solve anything for the better unless you want someone who is into just playing with you and even bieng a bad guy isn't a garanteed to get a girl.It will only a garantee for disappointment and loss of who you really are, and don't forget you are still young . Stay positive and patient in your search good things are worth waiting for unfortenatly being young I'm sorry to inform you that you will one day exsperience a real broken heart. But maybe not if you listen and follow your instinct, gut feeling and intuition But sometimes we get bored with not pushing the envelope.Just enjoy and don't take girls at this age serious or to heart.Keep on bieng nice and she will find and seek you.
2006-11-03 23:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am double your age and I had the same problem. I would try to find someone to go out with and couldn't and have been told that I am a too nice of a guy. I have dated a number of women and they would work out not to be anything serious. I was just about to the point of just giving up when my wife came clearly of of the blue. It took me by suprise. Just hang in there. Heck you are only 19. Keep your head up and don't get down because the right woman will come along for you when you least expect it. Getting down does not help either because believe it or not it shows through your personality. Just give it time someone will come along and it will be well worth the wait.
2006-11-03 23:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay true to your self' There is one out there that just hasn't realized yet that the bad boys ain't good relationship material. How many questions have you seen on here from girls that have some jerk of a boyfriend that's not treating them right? I have seen a lot of them. So don't worry some where along the way you will find the one that is tired of going with jerks. In the meantime be comfortable with yourself. Your only 19 you have a long way to go enjoy the ride. Be happy no matter what. Don't let things get you down. You are to young to worry about it now.
2006-11-03 22:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't turn into an **** because obviously the girls that you are trying to talk to aren't worth your time if they think like that anyway. Try not to think about it too much i've noticed that when you don't look for relationships and don't dwell on it just live your life and do what you need to do that it will just show up when you least expect it.
I was single for a really long time too and then i just started to not care anymore because sometimes it was better to just be bymyself that way i have no one getting in the way of what was important to me. Then once i stopped looking I found someone great where i would have never ever thought to look.
2006-11-03 22:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As "sunshine" says, it REALLY is age dependent. You don't give your age but up until 25 or so girls often don't go for the decent boys. Then suddenly at 25 they all want them. Don't worry. It was similar for me but the qualities you have will become more attractive as the girls grow up a bit. You're on to a winner. The idiots look a LOT less attractive at 30.
2006-11-03 22:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ian69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find most girls like nice guys. But not TOO nice. If you like have a small white lfuffy dog called Betsy and dress her up in the morning bfore you go and hand feed the homeless people then maybe you are TOO nice. They will get bored with that. You need to show them that you are nice, but you can have fun to.
2006-11-03 23:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by King_Dano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know the old saying nice guys finish last and believe me it's true..but don't become an a**hole.
I'm a nice guy too and have trouble finding women.. but you know what? I'd rather be myself then change and lose respect for myself. If a woman cant accept you for you screw her.
You're better off without her.
2006-11-03 22:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Treat em mean keep em keen" Thats what they say. personaly i think its nice to be nice. Although i have found from past experience that you can be too nice, which resorts to being led round on a leash or becoming thier puppet. So personaly i would be nice but take no crap. You could also try being a bad boy as women love a bad boy. (you can still be nice though)
2006-11-03 22:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by rosco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can be too nice, its your nature to be this way don't change it, i for one would not want to be with a nasty person who would! Stay the same as you are and go and have some fun and stop worrying that you wont find someone it will happen naturally just you wait and see. Good luck! xx
2006-11-03 22:39:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋