My toddler only wants to be with her dad. I work a lot and he stays at home with the baby. Should I feel guilty? My son and I are close but when I go to hold my daughter she cries.
2006-11-03 22:28:08 · 12 answers · asked by Mamma Muscles 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Children do that..no big deal.
2006-11-03 22:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty. I'm a stay at home mom and have 2 little girls. My husband works long hours during the week. My girls love their daddy to pieces, but would rather have me when they're not feeling good, or tired, etc. It's not because of anything you did wrong. They just get it in their heads that if this one certain parent usually solves my problems and knows my routine, that they are the one that I should go to when I need something. It's nothing personal. It's just a toddler brain working out her problems in the best way she knows how- and that's to go to Daddy and let HIM do it.
2006-11-04 07:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is simply identifying with the person who is her care giver most of the time. NO you shouldn't feel guilty. You should feel THANKFUL. At her age your daughter doesn't really understand that there IS a difference between "mommie" and "daddy". All she knows is he feeds her and takes care of her. My god son's daughter used to call HIM "mommie" because he was a stay at home dad while his wife worked outside the home. He is a consultant for the school district and did freelance photography so he was able to make a good living AND stay at home, his wife is a lawyer. Toddlers don't understand the concept of "role reversal".
2006-11-06 03:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you shouldn't feel guilty. Would your husband feel guilty if the situation were reversed? This is totally normal. It's a woman's nature to feel guilty over this sort of thing, because of our mothering/nurturing instinct. Just accept the fact that this is the way it is for now. And be kinder and more forgiving to yourself. You're taking care of your family. Your daughter will draw closer to you as she gets older.
2006-11-04 07:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany_willis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually very common in the toddler years for a child of one sex to prefer the parent of the other sex. It has been studied and they have concluded that your feeling toward your parent of the opposite sex in your toddler years helps determine your preferences later on in life when you go to chose your special someone. Don't feel to guilty. if you want to spend more time with her however take her out on a mommy and me day were you guys go out just the two of you and do something fun. Don't forget to have one on one time with your other child though.
2006-11-04 06:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty! Me and my boyfriend both work and he works more than I do. Our son spends more time with me, so it's natural that he is a momma's boy. There are days when he only wants Dad, but not very often. Just make sure you show her that you love her and give her lots of it! chances are this is only a phase, and when she is sick, she will want momma.
2006-11-04 06:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminded me of a story about the children of Steve Irwin, the crocodile hunter, after he died. His wife told a story of how his daughter Bindy used to say to her "please don't get mad mummy, but i think i love daddy more". She told her that it was okay and she thought that was great.
Just be so happy that your daughter loves him so much and remember that later on, she will need you more than you think.
2006-11-05 06:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by mrs herby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all a big test, to see if you really love her. Of course you do, but she has to test it anyway.
Just grin and bear it and try to get yourself involved in as much activity with her as you can. Also, don't forget she really really wants praise from you, so do it, praise her and tell her how proud you are of her, all the time.
2006-11-04 08:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, kids go through phases, just keep letting her know you are there and love her without smothering her and eventually she'll grow out of this. Hang in there!
2006-11-04 08:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lucie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty .its the old saying daddy's little girl.when you are home try to have fun with her just the 2 of you i wouldn't worry it wont always be this way.shes young yet.
2006-11-04 06:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋