girlfriend issue?

Question

i have a major problem, i would like to know whether either my gf or me is being unreasonable and what i should do. I have a long distance gf, i met her on the internet 4 yrs ago, and after we chatted for a month i fell for her, i flew to see her and we got on really well and had great dates the best ever, the plan was which was in my mind would be that i would move to her i was happy with that, i had 2 jobs and felt i could make it though i wanted to sort out my debts first and make a clean break, over the next 2 yrs i visted her evry 3 months or so, got her a car and rented apartment which i paid for plus her expenses, she wanted to buy a house but wanted me to fund it, i have now run low on cash and havnt seen her for ages as i have paid for everything and i am now financially in trouble, she has since lost the flat and car, i fear she will breal up with me i love her and want her, but she wont say she loves me i want to get intimate with her too but she wont, what do i do

she is also charming sexy and funny

Answer 1

Are you so stupid.. to do all this.. in the name of love? god save you...

Wake up. You had a bad dream.. dude.

Answer 2

you being used ... if she wont even say she loves you and you do and pay everything for her.. As LDR is really hard. I can say i am almost like you. I know my wife from Internet, and i furthur my studies oversease and we continue over internet and phone. We meet once a year. She does treat me good and we got married.

My point is you and her is LDR. you dont know what she do behind you, you fund her, give her a car and a place to stay. Did you ever sport check on her by calling her. She may be using your money to go out with another guy.. Think man. you just need to know that there is not only one girl in the world. Shes lucky got a gold mine.

all i can say dump her, continue your life, pay your things, get one that really can help you, in term of ( Love, support, and confidence). Good luck man.

Answer 3

I hate to say this but if she breaks up with you, it would be the best thing that could happen to you. Don't you see what has happened the last 2 years? Sure, it will hurt and the pain will take a while to subside but you will recover not only emotionally but also financially. She won't say she loves you because she doesn't and this relationship could only get worse. A woman who truly loves you will not want to see you in dire straits. Stay away from her and love yourself first.

Answer 4

Never mind her. Think of YOURSELF and get counselling!!! Is it the very first time something like this happens or have there been similar if less clamorous episodes of some girl taking advantage of your generosity? It all sounds to me like a life pattern based on low self esteem. If so, try and figure out what makes you behave like the knight in the shinny armour to damsels in distress that turn out to be wicked witches. You can break this pattern if you get help and work on it.
Best of luck an all my sympathy!

Answer 5

I think you need to cut your loses here. I think money dominates this woman, I know you don't want to hear this but I don't think this was true love.. She is a user what has she given you? Nothing but heartache and financial trouble!! Learn you lesson now before things get worst if she won't commit to after 4 years of knowing her then simply just close this chapter of your book.

It was never going to work out far to one sided. You will meet someone else who will be right for you!!

Answer 6

You played "Santa Claus." He should have stayed at the north pole.
Doing that much for a girl screams "insecurity."
She has moved on. I hate to say it, but you had a gold digger. The gold is gone, and she no longer digs you.
Get counselling as to why this all happened.
Read "The Feeling Good Book," for self esteem help.
Don't play Santa, again, just inexpensive presents from now on. Then if she likes you, it's for you.

Answer 7

Dude, I would be charming funny and sexy if you got me a car and paid my rent and my expenses! EXPENSES ::lmao::

Are you dating her or hiring her? I think there are cheaper ways to get some 'companionship'.... look under 'escourts' in the Yellow Pages. Don't be surprised if she shows up though! Girl sounds like she should be on someone's books!!!

Answer 8

Mate think about it she's Had you right over. I'd hunt her down and sort her right out for taking the piss with your cash!!!!
You can let women take the piss or they'll all wonna do it. Be strong it only sex an old brass only cost's £50-£120 that would have been cheaper!!!!!

Answer 9

im sorry to have to tell you this man, but it seriously sounds like shes using you. youve been together four years, and she hasnt said she loves you? no intimacy whatsoever? granted, i understand that you love her, but she's treating you like a chump. i'm sorry to be blunt, but you don't want someone to mince words here. if youre paying for everything, then what's she paying for? how does she get by when you arent around or sending off checks. what's worse is that if you do run out of cash, people like that will up and leave you. you need to talk to her, and find out how she feels about you. i mean really feels about you, not about your money. tell her youre broke, and cant afford any of the nice things any more for her, barely for your self, because thats what is sounds like is happening... if she'll stick by you even though youre broke, then she does love you, but if not, then she's just using you. you need to find out otherwise she'll just keep using you. you arent being unreasonable, not by a long shot, but it definately sounds like she is. talk to her, find out whats important to her, you or your money. good luck mate.

Answer 10

well u've got a really screwed up situation buddy...she is obviously playing wit u-no doubt....and by now she mite b doing d same to some1 else....well u can try going and meeting her and talking things with her but doubt it will work..forget bout her dude...hey it'd b better forgetting bout d money u spent on her rather den marrying such a female.. b happy u did not make d mistak of marrying a b**** lik her and spoiling ur future....

Answer 11

Afraid you wont like this answer but i think you have been cheated, she has been using you and the best course of action for you is to forget her and get on with your life, good luck