ok i had a few past relationships that were big things to me....but for some reason they dont matter compaired to this last guy.
we were friends first for like a year...then 4 months before he says he is leaving to another state he asks me if i wanted to be his girlfriend..and i said ..yea.....everything was great!...we talked alot! we always understood eachother..... he was always telling me how much he liked me and ...blah.blah.. and then came prom week...and he became a bit distent..he stoped visting me at school started to have to stay late at work....
stoped asking me to hangout.... and then prom...he kissed me he huged me...it was alll him...the night was perfect....then on our month anniversary his best friend tells me he wasnted to break up..his other best friend tells me that he is gay and was cheating on me with a guy at work...
i laughed and still find it funny.....
so he was gay....and now gone...
so why does it hurt so much....
i cried...one thing i dont do..
Why?
2006-11-03 21:43:46 · 17 answers · asked by Je Suis Une Enigme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yea.. after we broke up...we didnt talk as much..and then i found out by his ex's that it happened to them too!
they are my friends now
but i mean it gets me mad that it wasnt just me but them too!
and i agree i think i feel so bad maybe because i was fooled.
well he is all the way across the contry now...
i just wish he had the guts to tell me to my face that he is gay and sorry...but i doubt that will happen
2006-11-03 21:54:57 · update #1
It happens.
2006-11-03 21:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, hon, unfortunately these things happen. I'm very sorry for you, and I know that it hurts. Here is what insight that I can offer:
More than likely, the reason that you are upset is not just because he was a guy that you were with but he was a friend. A friend that betrayed you. And that always hurts.
What makes it worst is that he probably wasn't being purposely cruel -- finding your sexuality is always difficult.
What you have to do now is accept what happened and move on. Don't dwell on it. Try to make your with what happened.
2006-11-03 21:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jamir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you are hurting so badly because you not only lost a boyfriend, but also a friend. And maybe its because you are feeling cheated that the whole relationship was based on a lie. That he couldn't trust you or respect you enough to be honest with you. Maybe you are wondering if you ever really knew him at all. In any case, he isn't even mature enough to talk to you about it himself, so I say chalk it up to life expeience and move on.....
2006-11-03 22:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are young and inexperienced and you fell for someone you felt comfortable with because you had been friends for so long.
Put it behind you and move on. You are not the first person ever to be cheated on, and you won't be the last.
2006-11-03 21:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh true. Yep I know the feeling. It happened to me 5 years ago. It hurts at first but then if he is happy then leave him where he is and what he is.
2006-11-03 21:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were gay, why did you not find the difference. They say, a gay never will have a normal relations with the opposite sex. You are the first to have noticed the difference. Do not accept the version of others. Try to locate you bf and talk to him.
2006-11-03 21:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you sure that was the truth. Maybe he said that because he thought that that might hurt you less. If he is gay though you are better off without him.
2006-11-03 21:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex & i'm getting alongside so....yet i do unlike bugs so shall we are saying he will become a mild change. So.....each and every now & then I turn him directly to show on the sunshine . ha ha ha. sounds sturdy to me.
2016-10-15 09:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to a clinic ang det checked out you can catch sti's from kissing as well you know
2006-11-03 21:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You cried because you regret the fact that you've been fooled...cheer up....
2006-11-03 21:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋