I have dated someone with kids before but now I'm a little more picky
2006-11-03 21:43:20 · 31 answers · asked by JIVE TURKEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No i'm the same way. Theres a girl my age interested in me who has 3 kids at 22 and honestly i just don't want the headache.
I dated a girl with a kid once and it was nothing but baby daddy drama.
2006-11-03 21:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not selfish. As a married woman with a child if I were single I would not want to take on someone's kid. It is a huge responsibility. Some step dads and step kids get along. MOST DO NOT. It is better for a single woman to raise her children then date. The divorce rate for a second marriage is higher than for the first time around. Of course finding a woman that even bothered to get married BEFORE having kids is a miracle in it self.I would really stay away from these women since they have no respect for themselves or their kids. Divorced women at least gave it a real shot. Of course someone who is widowed is different. Be picky it is better to know what you want instead of getting in to a relationship and hurting everyone involved.
2006-11-04 05:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by alwaysthebestanswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have kids (and a partner!!) BUT.... if I didnt have a partner and I was on the lookout then I would NOT choose any bloke who already had kids - there are a number of reasons for this, but mainly I would want MY kids to come first to him.
I dont think its selfish at all, its putting those that matter first - in your case - its you - as you have no kids, in my case - its my children.
But - my sister has kids (who are not her partners) and she has been with her partner for many years now and she is now pregnant by him. Before they met he was adament that he would never date any women with children and he definately didnt want any children of his own - sometimes you just cant control who you fall in love with, even if the circumstances are not ideal.
But dont feel bad about it - some people wont date 'overweight' people etc etc
2006-11-04 05:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by niccilicci 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , but woman with kids are ok .I had a woman who was slightly older than me and had 6 kids. It was an interesting relationship. I just bought meat specials for the house and that kept her happy pretty much. She loved sex, though shttttttttt, but sex was a race, had to race home from work and get home by 3:15, and kids got out school at 3:30 . not enough bed rooms . so i did it in the upstairs kids bedroom cause the first thing they would do was run to the fridge so that gave me like 2 more minutes of sex.,
2006-11-04 05:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by streetkritic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for your decision. If you don't want children in your life, it's wise to not date women who already have them. If the relationship became serious, you would be expected to include the children in your future with the mother. Too many children are resented and become neglected, abused, or worse. It would be great if more guys were honest regarding this issue. Now be sure you don't get someone pregnant!
2006-11-04 05:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. A friend of mine was chatting with a guy and mentioned she had a kid. He backed off completely and told her why. Then she says to me,"It's not fair. He didn't even get to know me!"
"Honey," I said,"he just did you a big favour! What if he's legally not allowed to be near kids? What if he's a registered offender?"
She never looked back.
You don't wanna be near kids, then no responsible parent would have anything to do with you!
2006-11-04 07:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are being honest with your boundaries and what you like. I was a step dad and it's a losing proposition. Once you break up, the kid/s
forget everything you ever did and never contact you.
2006-11-04 05:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i take it you don't want to have kids in your life, and that's not selfish, it's honest. not everyone has the desire or skills to be a parent, so what would be selfish is to have kids, or be with some one who has kids, and not want them
2006-11-04 07:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Becky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are.I'm 49 and my children are all grown up I did my part in raising them. It's my turn to live and do the things I want to do.So no I don't think your beaning selfish.
2006-11-04 05:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! I think you are honest!!!
To date a girl with baby is more complex.. a lot of responsibility's...
In the and "WE" ( I have a son) - DON"T DATE!!!! We are looking for a "papa" for a baby. even if we don't realize that.
so, is better even dong start!!!!... (of course, at list you are really in love)
2006-11-04 05:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by awg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋