I'm a really pretty girl, but i have trouble with approaching dudes. Besides the fact that i am very picky with the dudes i want, when i find a attractive dude, which is rare, i'm to shy to approach him. I have a friend who is basically ugly and can approach a dude care free.
I feel like the dude should come to me. They will see me and play hard to get because they are very attractive and know for a fact that they can get any woman they want. What should i do.
i'm pretty and i know it. but i lack confidence and i'm shy. when i have a friend who is ugly that has more confidence.
2006-11-03 19:55:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should get off the idea that you're so gorgeous that everybody should come up to you and fawn at your feet! Try acting a little more humble, as if YOU'RE the one that's ugly(because, in truth, that attitude IS rather unpleasant!) and maybe be a little more generous and smile as much as possible. You'd be surprised at how many people will approach you when you're open and fun to be around!
2006-11-03 19:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your confidence will probably come when your inner clock says its time.
I get the impression that you would like it too happen... just not yet and your a bit jealous that this other girl is bringing the boys too her... it's kind of like fishing... some lures bring the fish in... some don't... usually the girls and guys that chase after the sparkly glittery type... really arn't into any serious mode for a relationship... more like get what they can and leave...
your inner workings, that little voice in your head is telling you that your better then that and that those boys that do react to that kind of glitz... arn't what attracts you to them... there must be a deeper connection before you step out of your comfort zone... THIS IS A GOOD THING!!!! This is your body, your mind.. the voice that is true too you saying... "Your time will come and this is what your looking for x,x,x,..till that happens... hold back."
To many girls get out and date too young, too fast... your friend has choosen a different path, you must choose your own.. be glad that your friend can do this if that is what makes her happy, but if you did the same thing it wouldn't have the same effect.
You need to be a bit patient.. listen too that inner voice, your time will come... you will get the boy, you will go out, you will have the time of your life... don't jump off the cliff just because everyone else is...
Too thine own self be true. Smile, hug your friend eachtime she brings a sparkly by (boy) she isn't any happier though... and know... truely know that you will find that individual that can add to your life, to your joy, not just be the reason, but be an additon to who you are.... this may happen in college, in H.S, after college or may be a short lived relationship... it will happen.... sometimes too fast.
2006-11-03 20:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. To some extent you lack self confidence. You should not loose heart. You should think that you don't lack any thing. You are just like other person and just like your friend who is ugly but meets with dudes confidence. come out of your shell and you will find that new eras of success will open and you will become more confident and beautiful as you are already.
2006-11-03 20:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wanna build up your confidence? Here are a few pointers:
Flirt- Learn how to flirt with guys. Be funny, playful, and engage in friendly banter with men. In fact, make it a goal to flirt with and talk to 10 men a day. It doesn't have to be a guy you are necessarily attracted to. The more guys you talk to, the ore confortable you are going to be around them. The more confortable you are around them, the more guys will want to persue you.
Dress and style - Learn how to dress nicely that compliments and highlights your best features. Also learn how to dress for any occassion. If you dress flatteringly, it tells the world that you are together as a woman and may get second looks from guys.
Self improvement - Look at yourself and ask yourself how interesting am I to be around. What am I doing with my life? What do I like to do for fun? Can I hold a conversation about most anything besides the weather?
2006-11-03 20:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People always think that being pretty is suppose to automatically give you confidence, but that just ain't true, it's about how you feel inside, you need to build up your self esteem, and tell yourself these guys wont bite, that their maybe just as shy as you are, but know how to act confident...don't take yourself too seriously, and learn to relax....there is nothing more unattractive than a pretty woman who has no self confidence...this is what makes an attractive man fall for a woman who probably is not that attractive, but she exudes pure confidence, and that's what makes her become attractive to men....remember this having confidence is not subject to how beautiful, or ugly a person is, it's about how that person feels within themselves regardless of what anyone may say, or think about them, and it's about self love also....it's so easy for some one to say I'm prettier than she is why has she got more confidence than i have, it is not our God given right to be born with confidence sometime....it takes time to develop.
2006-11-03 20:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go up to guys with the intention of not really liking them , and just say hi , make a game out of it. keep in your head that you dont care if he likes you or not. Once you do this you will get into a flow and learn as you go. Use your ugly friend to your advantage, and when she approaches guys you go with her and with her being there, this will keep the attention from being directly on you . You will feel more at ease and then start to feel more comfortable . Just go into the conversation as you just want to be friends . If your feelings change then you will already have broken the ice .
2006-11-03 20:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by streetkritic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Self-confidence is not something that can be given, it is gained. You should join a club or sport, I do Taekwondo. Interractive groups like that are proven to strengthen self-confidence, it certainly has made me much more confident in myself. I used to be very shy but when I started joining clubs in my senior year I began feeling more important to the world. I went from shy violin player to President of Club Asia/ from crowdsperson to main role of Jesus. It works I promise just find somthing You enjoy doing and find that club and have fun. Good Luck.
2006-11-03 21:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by b4tm4n18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta work a little to get a little....i dont think u're conceited but if you're attractive and are shy to approach guys, don't you think some attractive guys may also be shy to approach you?
Smile more and seem approachable.
2006-11-03 20:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by punisher c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off....not nice to call your friend ugly and second your cocky, If you feel the dude should come to you then keep waiting...Let me ask, if you approach someone whats the worst thing they can say...NO...big deal move on...at least you'll know if he is interested in you or not...Grow a pair(not literally)
2006-11-03 19:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Justcurious81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe stop using the word Dude so much, that's a good start.
2006-11-03 20:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋