everything for guys once they show a bit of emotion towards her like dinner, plane tickets, little gifts and shes gotton nothing from any of these guys but 1 lunch date so their pretty much just using her, since shes also givin it up in the sack also and shes not even dating these guys. She totally flipped the story around and said that it's not right that my b/f buys things for me...as in dinner, movie, weekend vacations, and so...she said men shouldn't buy things for girls and its not te 50's. What do you think and who do you think is making more sense??
2006-11-03 18:47:52 · 10 answers · asked by JA+JH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I think you're both wrong.
Unless it's seriously inhibiting your friendship with her, I think that until she asks for your advice or starts complaining about the situations (which, I will admit are NOT healthy for her)... then there's nothing you can do about it and you really just have to make a decision whether to be there for her, not let it affect your friendship with her and butt out, or move on and no longer be her friend.
She also has absolutely NO right to pass judgement on your relationship. How you choose to be in a relationship is between you and your boyfriend... it has nothing to do with her.
It's great that you care about your friend and how her decisions affect her life in a negative manner, but she's pretty much stuck in her ways and until something seriously negative happens to her to change her mind or she grows up and realizes what she's doing is immature & that relationships are supposed to be EQUAL - not unbalanced EITHER way.
2006-11-03 18:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by readysteadystop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. Why should she spend all this money on guys who she is not dating. All they want her for is her money and sex. My sis used to do the same thing. She has to realize that this is not good. She is trying to buy mens affection and while it works while she has her purse or her legs open, at the end of the day she doesn't have love, only an empty wallet.
2006-11-03 18:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a real gentleman would not accept gifts from a lady with out getting to know who she really is and even then I personally believe that a real man would be doing the gifting as a token of gentlemens honesty!
2006-11-03 18:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth hurts but you are being a good friend by letting her know. Trust me she will realize when she does on her own and if she really loves you she'll come back to her senses
2006-11-03 18:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes as you said she never got gifts from any guys maybe that is the cause of her telling you all the piece ...but I would say that it all depends on the boy if he likes it is fine .. if he doesnt then it shoud not be a problem
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Sameer
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2006-11-03 18:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was right. but remember it's still her life and money. if she want's to do those things even if you warn her, then let her be. the best you can do is to constantly remind her. she still chooses what to do in the end. if you are her true friend, then no matter what she does you will still be there to support her. hopefully she bumps her head and realizes the wrong she is doing.
2006-11-03 18:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you both have very different opinions on what is right..you are both right actually because you must respect how she runs things and how you run your relationship..i need to say this as a friend you need to know your boundaries and you must respect how she runs her life in tune but if shes in trouble help her out...i have friends and they do things that i dont agree to but i dont bash them for doing somethng different then me or i think its wrong thats not my place i cant judge her for something shes doing even if i think its wrong i can only support and respect her decision...your friend has the right to feel offended eventhough you are looking out for her best interest. i know you dont want her to get hurt by these men but shes a friend and you need to know your boundaries.....
2006-11-03 18:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't mind being used, it's really none of your business. I know she's your friend and you don't like it but lets face it, it's a live and learn situation. Bite your tongue and say no more. It's ok for a woman to treat a man and vice versa but it really should be equal.
2006-11-03 18:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by just jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that u were only trying to help her and youse should still b friends ...ask her what shes getting from the relationship and find her a job where she will have lots of friends
2006-11-03 18:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do wht she wants to buy .....n when she will feel thats u were correct then she will say sorry to u ok .........
2006-11-03 18:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by newton_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋