My parents divorced when i was 12.Growing up..she told me on atleast 2 occasion that she wished they'd never adopted me. Made very rude comments about my dress on my graduation day. Tried to convince me that my dad had been"innapropriate" with me. And bad mouthed him after he died of cancer. She even attended the funeral and cried and was upset. I dont know if it was an act or not. I really dont feel anything for her, I just want her to leave me alone and have told her this.. She just wont. I dont want to e hatefull to her, but how do i get my point across?
2006-11-03 18:22:22 · 15 answers · asked by Hunnybunny00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im 23...i live in a small town.so it seems like i run into her everywhere. I wonder if im being followed...correction...i have 4 mothers..---birth mom,---adopted mom,---step mom,---and mother in law..lol
2006-11-03 18:28:15 · update #1
If you feel your life would actually be better without her presence, you need to cut ties. Yes, you have an obligation to be kind to others, but not at the expense of yourself. You should be the most important person in your life, despite what she may have done 'for' you in the past.
2006-11-03 18:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really hurts me to read stories about estranged mother/daughter relationships, but then I just realize that some stuff must have happened that I am not aware of. But by reading the things you've listed (well, maybe not the she wished she never adopted you part) it doesn't sound too bad. All people all have their own kinks. I think I've heard tons worse things that mothers have done to their children. Maybe limit the time you spend with her, and if she wonders why, you can explain that she said some things that hurt you and can't get past. Take my advice with a grain of salt as I'm not psychiatrist, but remember:
Words are just words. They get said. Don't take them to heart.
2006-11-04 02:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to her. This is in no way your fault. You never asked to be adopted. If anything you should be more special to her than ever. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I really do feel so sorry for you. I don't understand how a parent could say something like that to thier own child. I don't think that you should completly cut ties with her, just try to make her understand that when she says things like that about you and your father that it really hurts you. Maybe she is upset with herself for some reason and that makes her lash out on you. Don't ever feel like what she says is true. You are special and she should be so lucky to have a wonderful child like you in her life. My thoughts go out to you.
2006-11-04 02:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like she's dragging you down, and you honestly don't feel like she should be in you life anymore, then you should cut ties with her. But, maybe you should try and sit down with her and try to talk things out, be honest and if she says hateful things, just walk away... don't stoop to her level.
2006-11-04 02:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a "love-hate" relationship, very complex one. Tell her firmly that you disapprove of her behaviour and repetition of the same will not be beneficial to her....I think she will understand.
2006-11-04 02:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her .. may be what ytou are thinking is a misunderstanding caused .. maybe she really doesnt like you or maybe there is something that she wants from you ... I would say be clear and talk to her and see what she comes up wioth and then decide what you have to do..
make sure you talk to her before you decide anything
Regards
Sameer
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-11-04 02:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order.
2006-11-04 02:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say hey you if you come around me again you will get five in the eye and then call the law and say she has been threatning you lol
2006-11-04 03:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by Avis S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to move away from her and don't let her have your phone number, start fresh somewhere new it will do you good.
2006-11-04 10:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move, change your number, stop talking to her, evertime she phones, hang up. screen your calls. There are alot of things you can do, just think about it.,
2006-11-04 02:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋