What are the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship?

Answer 1

Checklist 1: Is Your Relationship Abusive?
1. He has angry outbursts with no warning or provocation.
2. He calls you names or constantly criticizes your appearance or behavior.
3. He puts down your friends and makes it hard for you to see them.
4. His outbursts take place when no one else is around.
5. He tells you what to feel, what to think, whom you're supposed to be.
6. He has very rigid beliefs about men's and women's roles in relationships and society, and is unwilling to hear your opinion.
7. He makes all the decisions about your relationship: where to go, who to see, how to spend money.
8. He consistently breaks agreements that you've made.
9. When you express feelings of hurt or frustration, he denies the behavior that caused them, refuses to discuss your feelings, says you caused the behavior, or accuses you of attacking him.
10. You fear his reaction when you do something contrary to his wishes; his moods are so unpredictable.

Checklist 2: Signs That Verbal Abuse May Turn Physical
1. He has been in a violent relationship before or has a history of violent encounters with others.
2. He blocks your exit — or threatens you in other ways — during arguments.
3. He pulls things out of your hands or asserts physical dominance in other ways (such as insisting on having sex when you don't want to).
4. He starts to go public: The criticism and name-calling happens in front of other people.
5. He is violent during arguments; he punches holes in walls, smashes things on the floor and/or destroys property.

Checklist 3: Signs That a Friend May Be in an Abusive Relationship
1. The obvious sign: She has unexplained bruises, cuts or other injuries.
2. She has casually mentioned his violent behavior but laughs it off as a joke.
3. She stops seeing friends and family.
4. She is unusually quiet or seems fearful when he is around.
5. She uncharacteristically cancels plans at the last minute.
6. He puts her down in front of other people and behaves in controlling ways.

If several of the above items apply to you or a loved one, seek professional help.

~good luck

Answer 2

hate,deep anger,outbursts, contempt, lying, stealing, heavy drinking or drug use, playing the game:"Look what you made me do!", accusations, demeaning comments, threats, retalliations, apathy "solve your own problems, leave me out of it ". getting even at any cost. Unkind or untruthful comments about the person or the person's family or friends Lack of love, compassion, understanding, nurturing, caring..
If one is in such a relationship, one has to ask the reason why. Was this behavior modeled in the family when the person was young. Does this relationship seem comfortable because it is familiar?
How long before the relationship becomes physically abusive, and what if there are kids involved. Be brave enough to break the pattern. You do not have to be limited by your past . But it won't help to leave one abusive relationship, just to be drawn to another abuser. Counseling can help.
-Spec

Answer 3

Emotional Abuse is purely someone saying things to hurt your fellings,and "they know their doing it-purposely". (If someone:)

(1) Calls you derogatory "names" (Such as "********* or Whore").
(2) Says your worthless,or no good to anybody.
(3) Calling you Stupid or Ignorant.
(4) You've gone through the trouble of preparing a wonderful meal,and the guy says "It taste like slop!".

These are some examples of emotional abuse. When a person's fellings are hurt,it takes a longer time to heal,and even longer time to forget,because the words "stay on your mind". The person who says these words are someone you love or care about, and it's hard to believe,that the person could say such things. (Yes) most emotion abusers know exactly what their saying,and this is their way of hurting you, (for now). If someone you know is in this type of relationship,then they need to get out quickly,because in due time,the abuse will become physical.

Answer 4

The person might say I'm being emotionally abused

Answer 5

Did you know that withholding affection, etc. is emotionally abusive, also? Go to your local bookstore and read some of the books on verbally abusive spouse, etc. This is how I learned.

Answer 6

If you are scared to see your partner, this is an obvious sign. If your partner effects you long term emotionally, or short term continuously...I'm assuming you are in one, or you know someone who is, otherwise I doubt you would be asking this question.

Answer 7

Instigating arguments while he would not get his way. once you confront him, he turns it lower back on you. you finally end up being the only saying sorry. Financially controlling you. Controlling who you spot, and while. no longer allowing you to have male friends. monitoring your facebook and contact. Insisting on understanding your passwords. protecting you on a string with out nurturing you.

Answer 8

He or she may be good-looking, may be nice at heart, and may have potential, but ultlmately if he/she doesn't seek counseling it gets worse.

Answer 9

when a person.. keepz putting you down.. and making you feel less about urself..

Answer 10

lqqking has it,......