My boyfriend, Chad, went oversea for his business trip for like 2 mos already. things got worse when he started to act very immature and became very controlling. he got upset when he found out about my co-worker who was interested in me, he got jealous over some of my blogging and myspace comments from my male friends (Just some friendly comments!). He sent his friend to spy on me while I was celebrating my friend’s birthday in a club. He called me up at least 5 times a day, basically asking where I was, what I was doing.
We had some big fights and yet I still wanted him cuz I loved him and guess I still do.
Lately, I got so tied up with my work. I’ve been really busy and almost having no time to chat with him online, talking on the phone as much as we used to. I was so tired when I got home. I’m 25 and I really want to make some great achievements in my career. I know I can do it but I just need to work harder on it.
2006-11-03 18:12:32 · 32 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend, on the other hand, can’t understand. He said I loved my job more than him!. How could he ever say something like that?
I was so dissapointed in him. He was lost for words when I told him “I can see us dying.. I think I’m falling out love…, I don’t know…”
I know he was hurt. Then, he said he’d be home very soon, maybe in 2 weeks time. He asked me to hang in there untill he got back. He needed to talk to me face to face.
Should I wait for him?
2006-11-03 18:12:54 · update #1
Move on with your life. You are young and career-driven. He sounds insecure - and it likely won't get better as you start advancing in your work.
2006-11-03 18:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Star 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well listen everybody cheats, and I'm sure you cheated on your boyfriend while he was overseas. Young kids like us need sex, and depending on the circumstance, it can even be sexy, or erotic to cheat. You cheated, big deal. Everyone does. Your boyfriends intuition told him that you were cheating, cant get mad at him. If you didnt cheat, good job and congratulations on being faithful, that is an expression of positive energy, but it is also requires you to suppress your true feelings, which are constantly fluctuating and changing.
Look, this is mandatory relationship type stuff. If you dont want to be part of this routine, and if your the type of girl that doesnt like to be tied down, take some time off from relationships or something. Concentrate on your career or something. Just be more self-aware and pay attention to what is important for you. When you are satisfied with yourself, then you can work with others better.
2006-11-03 18:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should wait for him, so you could talk face to face with him. He's gone overseas for a long time and he more than likely misses you and is afraid that he will lose you. Especially with your co-worker's interest in you. He may think that you are stepping out on him with the comments that men leave on your myspace and blogging.
2006-11-03 18:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the same old problems. most of what is wrong with u two is the long distance between you, too often, also if anyone should be worried i think it should be you worried, usually the one who accuses the other of cheating is the one cheating, they feel guilty and accuse the other...so until you can be together more often, or decide on an open relationship, then I think you will continue to have these problems...
by the way how have you been, havent seen you on here much lately, missed you....good to see your still working hard, wish your bf problems would go away....
2006-11-03 18:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes wait for him, see how it goes when he returns. If you don't you might very well regret it. Actually i really think you will regret it. wait until he gets home. at least you will know for sure with no regrets. good luck.
By the way, he is simply insecure because he is not with you. He wants to be with you and can't handle the thought of you being with someone else. I think he sounds sweet. If you want to find out your true feelings for him then wait. It is a short time to see how you both feel.
2006-11-03 18:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he means anything to you, then yeah. but, if you could live without the obsessiveness, no. one of the main reasons guys get over protective is because they think you are doing something wrong. they think that way because either the have been hurt way too many times, or they are the guilty party,and blaming you makes you focus on yourself and blinds you from his wrong doings. this is kinda grade school, but maybe you should get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. one side being pro and one side being con. see how it balances out.
2006-11-03 18:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by melelisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart think about this seriously..you keepposting the same questions.. so you are obvioiusly so upset and so worked up over this... and you know he isnt good for you otherwise you wouldnt put it out there so much that he isnt you know everyone is going to tell you he isnt... youre a sweet gorgeous girl.. and you realli dont need that.. he doesnt deserve you at all! please do yourself a favor and leave him.. he isnt right for you or neone else it seems.... and to tell the truth a guy who is jealous is usually paraniod...he is probably married there or something... or has a girl there u dont know...and he loves it and he loves accusing youit makes him feel better about what he is doing there.. trust me ... better leave him now b4 u find out the hard way... good luck sweetie
2006-11-07 02:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by lila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for you to do at this time
you may need to focus on your career for awhile and he should understand that beside he is focusing more on his career as he does be away for a month or two.
I think you no what is best just make sure it is what you want personally i think you deserve better.
even try taking a break for awhile and see how things go but if you decide to do this stay strong and tell him you need your space
2006-11-05 22:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Blonde_o2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetheart when a man is away he always has thoughts of the other man. Make sure that if its real then prove it to him. I was in Iraq for a year and found out my wife was cheating. Don’t make the same mistake. Make that man feel loved no matter what. Just make sure your you mean it!!!!
2006-11-03 18:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by wusabi12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes If you love him and u know he loves you. The other thing, you need to make time for him even if its a morning kiss a lunch time message or call, he feels left out, and probably not really trusting. You need to let him still know that u care and your thinking of him
2006-11-03 18:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Viper 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you probably owe it to him to wait two weeks great one.
I'm not saying you have to, but two weeks isn't very long; unless you have already made a decision and are already acting on it!
Oh yeah, you probably are worth it to him, but he does seem a bit on the high maintenance side and for men, that probably doesn't bode well for a single woman with high ambitions.
Did I mention you can myspace me anytime?
2006-11-03 18:15:02 · answer #11 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋