I need everybody's help!!!? Parents I need your input?

Question

Ok, I am ninteen and was home-schooled from the 6th grade and on , yes all through highschool! I just started working and I am starting to make alot of friends and they all want to go clubbing, but my parents say NO! Now I have never drank, smoke, or did drugs! Never been arrested or anything! I wanna have some fun and I DON'T want to go behind their backs and start lying and sneaking around. What should I do?!! I am nineteen, I mean I have to live a little, right? How should I tell them or ask them?

For those of you who said move out, I can't its to expensive for school and renting a place and I can never find a roommate who is responsible enough to help out with rent! Thanks though :)

Answer 1

I did it, dont do it its not all that its cracked up to be... You dont dance, its a place for men to find women for cheap sex and Alcohol.

get a staedy beau and then go!

Answer 2

There are much better places to go than a club. Your parents are telling you this for your own good. They can't hold on to you forever. They will eventually have to let you out of their sight. The worse thing to do, is to go behind their back. That is so wonderful that you have not put those substances into your body because they are not good for you. Reading what you wrote about not drinking, smoking, or doing drugs and never going to jail, you should be thanking your parents for that. Just think, if they would have let you go free, what would your life be like right now. Okay, you wanted to know how to approach them. Well, first you must be honest. Tell them that you would like to go out with some of your associates. Let them know that you will not go somewhere that they do not approve of. Apparently a club is out of the question. If these individuals are your friends, they would respect your parents wishes and you guys can go somewhere else, that's appropriate. If you have been inside basically since sixth grade, be careful with the ones that you are calling your friends. People can put on an act and fool you big time. Just be careful and listen to your parents.

Answer 3

You are becoming more independent and want to taste some of what the world has to offer. Totally understandable. Your parents, on the other hand realize that some of what the world has to offer is toxic. They have taken great care in raising you, and are aware of your maturity level, strengths and weaknesses. They love you.

Invite some of your friends over to meet your mom and dad. Maybe have them over for dinner. This will keep the lines of communication open. It will also show your friends that although you can't go clubbing you still want to be friends. Go to movies with them, or pursue other hobbies like rock climbing, hiking, cycling etcetera.

The bottom line is that although you are becoming more independent you aren't there yet. You live in your parents home and have to follow their rules. Whatever you do - please don't lie to them or sneak around. It is so hard to win back trust once you violate it. Your parents deserve your honesty.

Also there is little reason to go to a club if you don't drink. The club atmosphere is built around alcohol. Few people go to clubs and don't drink. They are usually loud smokey places. You waste a lot of money in them. But you have to find out for yourself- after you move out. If you are chafing under your parent's restrictions start thinking of ways to make that sooner rather than later. You are working so save your money towards an apartment. Good luck.

Answer 4

Please advise at your young youthful age at nineteen. Enjoy life, your self, your family. Be joyful you still have your parents! I have an answer for you.....finds some real friends like at chruch, an activity.so on there are more positive influences in your life than that route. Take from me drugs, drinking and any mind altering substance can't be taken back. Just a lifes lesson. Now, stay positive! Please try not to be so anxious. Go hug your Mom & Dad! Be Thankful........Don't ever lie! The thruth will set you free, Always

Answer 5

OK, you are nineteen. You should be making a lot of friends!! But..... if your "friends" require you to lie to your parents about what you are doing, then you are also lying to yourself. Talk with your parents, listen to what they say. What do you think? Discuss what you think and feel with your parents. Even if they say things that you do not agree with, please know that they love you and want the very best for you! Someday, you may become a parent of a 19 year old - - - - - - -

Answer 6

You may be a good girl and have good intentions, but you also shouldn't put yourself in a situation that will push your morals. Clubbing is not what it's cracked up to be, and it's not for girls like you unless you want to be changed. Your parents probably know this too, they know what's best for you, and while you live at home you should honor them. Don't go, there are plenty of other things to do to have fun on a Friday night.

Answer 7

Your parents raised you apart to keep you from this clubbing.
IF you live at home with them, then still obey them,
especially if you trust their judgment and love them.

If not, you can go and do as you please,
and show them that you can club without drinking, drugging, smoking. You can be the driver. They will be hurt.

You also can find other ways to have more fun.
People go to clubs to see and be seen.
You can get that elsewhere, and have more fun too.

Answer 8

If you're 19, just go have fun with your friends. But I suggest you stay away from drugs and alcohol.

Answer 9

19 wow at that age i already done 2 tours in bosnina for the army .. lol babe just move out lol.... join the army pmsl

Answer 10

If you live in their house, you have to follow their rules. If you want to live by your own rules, move out on your own. It's that simple. You won't be able to change your parents' minds, so don't waste your time trying.