today is my birthday : ) my brothers called me to say "Happy Birthday" and my parents said so too (and my aunt and my cousin)
BUT my man hasn't, obviously he forgot
he won't get home from work for probably another 1/2-hour so I'm debating whether I should wait up for him just to be mad or just go to bed and be mad when he wakes me up
we're having all kinds of problems lately and now this, he's so inconsiderate that he can't even call to say "Happy Birthday!" I don't want/need or even expect a present, just a simple call to say he remembered (and cares)
my mom called me a little while ago and asked me if I got a nice dinner for my birthday. I laughed and said he hasn't even called all day to even say "Happy Birthday!" she laughed and said, "well, that's what happens when they stop caring"
how mad would you be? is this even something to be upset about? my mom said to forget his birthday when it comes around, kinda hard though, it's New Year's Eve, everyone knows his
2006-11-03 17:43:20 · 22 answers · asked by smarty pants 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would've gone out tonight but we have a 2-yr-old and since I didn't have plans, I just stayed home and put her to bed. I was hoping he'd come home early and surprise me
my aunt's birthday was yesterday and she said something about going out tomorrow, so if he really did forget I'm going out with her (I think he did forget, I doubt he's gonna surprise me with anything when he gets home tonight, or tomorrow)
2006-11-03 18:08:10 · update #1
I don't know what to say about the man troubles but I found that your mother having a chuckle and then making the comment you wrote to be very insensitive also.
A birthday isn't the end of the world but it is something that is nice when mentioned. It's your special day, usually the only one for most people. Your man should be considerate and remember. You have to remember though that guys often forget about special days and dates. There is no cure for this.
If it is really important to you then you should mention it over breakfast in the morning. Don't be all psycho about it. Stay with your normal routine and just happen to mention how nice it was to receive so many calls on your birthday, by so many people who cared about you. Then all, NOT psycho, say "I must have missed your phone call"?
Wait for the response and if your not satisfying with the response, then go psycho! just kidding.... Its ultimately your call on how special you expected to be treated.
2006-11-03 17:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. How mad, well yours is better than mine... in mine the mother doesn't remember either. But when it is your other half, and you are saying that just two words is all you want to hear. The same two words that could come out of a strangers mouth if they heard it was your birthday by accident on the street or at the store, so of course the man your with...who you probably do a lot more with than a stranger could find...what 2 seconds to say Happy Birthday!! Usually I agree with moms, but why stoop to that level, is that you...would you forget his birthday regardless of what day of the year it falls on?
Stand up for yourself, first the birthday..what else is next...forget to come home, forget he's even with you?
How long you been together? It sounds like you live with him, so I can only answer from experience and when it happened to me the entire house I lived in with my companion forgot. After I threw a surprise party for that particular X-special person whose birthday is 2 days after New Years. And get this, his fathers birthday was the day before mine...so really hard to forget.
Point here is he didn't forget, and that is really cruel...can't imagine if this is early in your relationship how much worse it's going to get.
Cut your losses and run, or address the issue and stick up for yourself...otherwise...your letting him take your birthday away and that is really friggin sad.
How mad, can't use those words in Answer but F'N Pissed is the cleanest way I can say how upset I would be.
2006-11-04 01:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by shrm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aree having problems, maybe the problems ar weighing on his mind more than your birthday. I would be a little upset but its not the end of the world. Im sure once he emembers he will feel like a total jerk. What if something pressing was goin on in your head and you forgot about his, thats if it wasnt on New Years Eve. You would feel bad. Give him a chance. When he comes home say My mom called today to tell me happy birthday. See what is reaction is. If he blows it off then he doesnt care. If he gets all upset then you know he cares.
2006-11-04 01:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband forgot my bday two years in a row! I forgave him because each birthday there was so much going on. He was so overloaded with work and my pregnancy was high risk, plus we were moving soon. Too much on his mind. I was a little hurt, but understood. Is there a lot of stuff on his mind? Men are also like that. I have to remind my husband when his family member's birthdays are coming up. He forgets so easily! If there is a lot on his mind, bite your tongue and maybe talk to him about it. If anything, maybe you can give him a guilt trip!
2006-11-04 01:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by tmae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he forgot when he's not even home yet? Maybe when he comes in the door, he'll greet you with a present. If I were you, I would greet him with a smile!! After all, if he's had a busy day, he might forget. Haven't we all forgotten some important event once in our lives? It really isn't worth getting yourself worked up over.
2006-11-04 02:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would be upset i know we all forget things but i know how you feel. i would just let him know that this really hurt your feelings. When he comes tell him that you have plans with your friends and when he ask what just say well they remembered it was my birthday and decided they would take me out since somebody forgot. Happy Birthday and Best Wishes
2006-11-04 01:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed off, too.
When New Years Eve comes, find something to do (WITHOUT HIM).....he forgot your birthday, who says you should remember his?!
I hope this is the first time he's done this because if it kept happening, I would consider leaving...Good luck to you....
And Happy Birthday!!! =)
2006-11-04 01:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, I would totally be upset. But hold on till he gets home/gets off work. Maybe he has a surprise. But if he doesn't just don't say anything until the morning. make sure you let him know how this upset you and how disrespectful this was.
2006-11-04 01:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that obviously would be something to be mad about but who knows maybe he's planning on a surprise for you.....just wait and see for a while till he comes back and if he doesnt remember then that would be something that you should worry about.....
2006-11-04 01:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by shirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i would be extrmely upset.. your man could just be playing with you he might have something special planned for you? Dont be angry wait till tomorrow it is a new day you never know what will happen.
2006-11-04 01:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by j0-j0-- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋