the proper ediquette for a 3rd marriage
2006-11-03 17:13:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
a neighbor is getting married, this is her third time.I had been to the first 2 weddings. Do I buy her another gift from her long registration list? Or do I decline the invite completely? When will the madness end? lol
2006-11-03 17:16:55 · update #1
You can't "ask" for gifts on a first marriage either ... people give you gifts because they are happy for you and want to help you celebrate. Also, the main idea of wedding gifts is that they are usually for young couples who need help setting up their home with nice "stuff." I'm sure after 2 failed marraiges, your neighbor probably doesn't need any more things. It's a burden to keep buying wedding gifts for someone... if you genuinely want to attend the wedding, get your neighbor an inexpensive gift. I think it's still bad etiquette to not bring a gift if you're attending. If you'd rather not go to the wedding, send a nice card with your best wishes for the couple.
2006-11-03 17:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hopefully third time's the charm. The proper etiquette for a woman getting married a third time is *not* to ask for gifts. But since she broke that rule, I would say for you - it depends on what the wedding & reception are like. Will there be a full course dinner? If there will be, I'd say get her a small gift, since she is spending money on inviting you. If it's going to be only hor d'oeuvres or just the ceremony, I say forget the gift and just write her a nice card! If you feel weird coming empty-handed, maybe get her a picture frame from Target. :)
2006-11-03 22:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you do not ask for gifts. What ever happend to only having the wedding & gifts and big to-do the first time???? You can go if you want, but don't feel obligated to buy another gift. Give a card and write in there to keep enjoying the gifts from the first 2 marriages!!!
2006-11-03 17:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by tiger4mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that for a 3rd marriage, a small reception for family and only a few close personal friends would suffice. By the third try, no gifts should be expected or asked for, unless greed overtakes good taste. The cost of the reception can be kept to a minimum by serving hors d`oeuvre and champagne or punch at a friends, parents or the couples own home. Then no one will feel obligated to give money to defray the cost of an elaborate sit down dinner.
2006-11-03 17:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by flamingo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all - it is NEVER okay to ask for a wedding gift no matter how many times you have been married. A wedding invitation does not carry the requirement of bringing a gift. A bridal shower invitation does - and that is another matter all together.
Now - the question is - do you want to bring a gift? You don't have to bring a gift in order to attend the wedding. But, if you WANT to bring a gift, you are of course, more then welcome to. If not, get them a nice card, saying congratulation, and leave it at that.
2006-11-04 03:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, no, no! It is not ok to ask for gifts the THIRD time!! If people WANT to buy gifts, that's fine and nice, but what could she possibly need that she didn't get from one of the first two wedding registries!!!
What I'd do: make a donation in her and her new husband's names to a charity that you or they feel strong about. They'll get a card saying you made the dontation but it never says how much.
2006-11-03 17:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by raquel122203 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes l don't think that asking for certain gifts is rude. I think everyone is entitled to a wedding gift whether it is their 1st or 10th wedding. Think about it , the gift is for both the bride and groom,not just the bride so it would be unfair for the groom to miss out also Wouldn't it ? Thats my opinion anyway. ps l have only been married once so l have never really thought about it before. Good question though l guess.
2006-11-03 17:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never OK to ASK for gifts. Even for the first wedding. People give gifts if they want to.
It's not proper to register for gifts, or to have a shower for a third wedding, if that's what you mean.
2006-11-04 07:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its ever okay to ask for gifts...
If you really want gifts then don't say anything and let guests decide for themselves what they want to do. Usually if you invite people to your wedding and make it a big hooplah, most guests will feel obliged to give some gift even if its the 3rd time.
Why do you even care?
2006-11-03 17:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since Im a guy, I purposely missed school that day they taught etiquette but to me, I wouldnt ASK for gifts even if it is the first marriage.
2006-11-03 17:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋