i'm a single mother looking for a serious relationship,is it posible having an agreement not to have kids.
2006-11-03 17:02:05 · 7 answers · asked by cherrielissa_amodia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea, if you find a man who does not want kids of his own
2006-11-03 17:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is focus on yourself and your kids. Have your own friends, interests, hobbies, learn to enjoy being single. You can't really go "looking for a serious relationship" as a goal in itself, that is how you end up settling for the wrong person just for the sake of being in a relationship. When you know who you are, you know what qualities are important to you in a partner, and you work on developing those qualities in yourself. When YOU are truly ready you will attract the person with the qualities you are looking for, to create a relationship you can truly be happy in and be yourself.
If one of the qualities you are looking for is someone who can accept your children and be okay with not having more, then you will automatically weed out the guys who don't fit that, and you will be happy that you are not settling for less. It is harder in that situation, I know as a mom to a 6 year old and physically could not have any more children even if I wanted to (which I don't anyway). It forces you to be more selective and yes, sometimes it gets lonely.
I had a few relationships since the birth of my son, which didn't last, and I've been completely single for a little over a year. I realized my top priority is to be a good parent, which means taking care of my own happiness first. And having gotten to that really good place in my life, I've recently met someone fabulous that I am able to date while continuing to keep myself and my son as top priority, and this guy just gets it... you know, you have a situation that people either get it or they don't, and it's such a good feeling when you find that person and you know that this time you're not settling for less.
2006-11-03 17:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is someone out there but you have a tough dilemma - it's tough and more and more end up settling instead. Single moms run aplenty (as dads) and not only is it hard for them to find the right partner they have to contend with the fact if that partner will become a good role model for their child(ren). Ive seen single moms (and dads) end up in bad relationships because they don't see whats best for them AND their child(ren). If you are looking not to have any more children, then you need to let your potential partner know this before it gets too serious.
2006-11-03 17:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by etile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its possible It will be hard because most men basically don't want the responsibility or to take care of some one Else's kid...But don't give up you will find someone who loves you no matter what
2006-11-03 17:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Viper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I speak from experience, be patient, take care of your child,
be selective. The Man you meet in your future will respect you for your self respect. He will love you for your Moral stand. Can you no longer have kids or do you not want kids....either way. let him know early...don't wait till he falls in love....then he has to compromise...
2006-11-03 17:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rick D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a possibility of anything. some people don't like children. some people want children.
2006-11-03 17:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-11-03 17:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by ??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋