I am a step mother to three kids ages 16,13 and 8. They call me by my name and they put Mrs in front of it Mrs. _________. My husband has custody of them and I am the one raising them I was wondering what are some other names that they could call me instead of mom. There mother left there father when they were 10, 7, & 2. They still see there mother every other weekend but I am the one raising them and I would like to be called something differetn by them.
2006-11-03 16:54:13 · 19 answers · asked by nicecouple 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they should call you whatever they and you are comfortable with, talk about it
2006-11-03 16:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I think it's about time they STOPPED calling you, Mrs!
They are of an age now where it would be comfortable for them to call you by your first name - even the 8 year old.
My cousin is a young mother and has older step children and they just call her by her first name - Julie.
I think we are living in an age where titles are not necessary and first name basis is rather trendy and acceptable.
Why not talk to your hubby and then sit down with the kids and say something like, "You know I really love you kids, as though you were my own. I know you have a really loving mom but I love knowing that I can care for you and your dad now.
I would really Love it, if you would call me, "Michelle(whatever your name is). If this is ok with you, you can start calling me this from today. It would mean so much to me".
Explain to them that Mrs is very outdated and you would feel more comfortable with first name basis. I think they will think it's "cool" and will get used to it real quickly. It will probably bring you closer together as well. Good luck! :)
2006-11-03 17:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they call you mrs. something???? isn't that a little formal for a step mom??? how about letting them call you by your first name? as a mother AND step child - whatever you do don't tell them to call you mom or moma or anything like that it will only cause pressure which causes resentment. and you shouldn't say you are raising them-you are helping raise them which you obviously do by your free will and if they are still calling you mrs. then they must not know you very well or don't feel close to you so don't try to force any nicknames on them.
2006-11-03 17:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they CHOOSE to call you Mrs. ______ or was that suggested to them? You really shouldn't try to push them into something that isn't comfortable for them. Regardless of the circumstances they do HAVE a mother already. They obviously love her and respect that name solely for her. Even though my ex & I share custody with our son and equal time when he remarried his wife tried to force him to call her "mom." For YEARS! He felt pressured and angry and confused. He often came home crying and asking me what to do. He chooses to call her by her first name because that's how he sees her. Not as mom or anything else other than the person she is whose name is __________. I'm sorry if their choice hurts you since you feel you take on so much responsibility with them but it would really be no different if you were a nanny. What would you expect them to call a nanny?
2006-11-03 17:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to drop the Mrs and just call you, your name. Let them decide to call you what they want, they have a mother even though she is not the best in the world. When they realize how special you are too them, they will come around and who knows maybe they will realize your better than their mother. Kids have to adjust on their on terms.
2006-11-03 16:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by magicallybeautiful10plus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 06:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you make it a game with them.
Tell them your honest feelings....that you don't want to be called mom, but feel Mrs ---- seems to formal.
Have them for a week put suggested names in a cookie jar......many, every day, every moment they think of one. Then at the end of the week you can all vote on the best one.
Make it special...........have a pizza party, cake, decorate......celebrate !!!
2006-11-03 17:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to them and find out what they would feel comfortable calling you. We all could come up with some good names but what if the kids don't like them? Then your back to square one. Talk it over with the children.
2006-11-03 16:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever comes naturally to them and is not offensive to you. Talk to them about it. Aunt, Ma, Step-Mother. It is really not about the name, but it is about recognition of the situation and respect, attachment, affection, trusting, but also, not the same thing as mother. I hear your point of view, and it sound justified to me. but your first name would be a good start.
2006-11-03 17:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the kids decide. I don't see a problem with them calling you by your first name. Talk to them about it and agree on what is comfortable for all.
2006-11-03 16:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it takes time hun. just have them call you by your first name. or talk to them about it. they are old enough now. tell them that you know that your not there mom but what else could you call me instead of lets say your name is mrs smith. they can tell you what they feel confortable with calling you.
2006-11-03 16:58:31 · answer #11 · answered by babyvoice69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋