Well me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 1 year and he recently started partying a lot and i actually stopped partying but i hate that he goes out. He still calls me when he is out like every hour or two. THen right away i think he might cheat he tells me he won't i just get worried cuz all his friends are single. So tell me......m i just freakin out?.......or is he jus tryin to have fun since we did spend almost everday together before
2006-11-03 16:49:37 · 22 answers · asked by MEri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And well i we do spend mon-fri together since we go to school together and i have two extra classes at night and he meets up with me at mcdonalds & we have a carmel sundae its like our routine. I jus have had bad experiences and i feel like he is gonna cheat like the rest
2006-11-03 17:07:41 · update #1
have fun with it, a guy needs time to hang out with friends, you can't just take that away from anyone just because your "going out" as long as you and him believe in your relationship without constricting demands then the relationship can actually grow, if your sexual life is open and frequent then there should be no need for him to cheat, he may have opportunities but the final decision is if he's happy with you then he will look forward to you at the end of the night and the many days to follow
follow up: don't get into routines in a relationship, it always works against it
2006-11-03 16:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As i guy i should tell you to leave him alone.......but in reality, this is a big problem, if its a serious relationship, then you should talk to him, let him know how you feel. He might be bored with you, cuz obviously if a man leaves his girl to go party and wild out with his single friends after being in a nearly 1 yr old relationship is cuz he wants to feel single again. You're both not on the same mind set, and if he's careless enough to go to parties, knowing there's gonna be chiks left and right, then he might be loosing interest in you. And yes there's a chance he can cheat, but only you know him. See how important you are to him, ask him if you can go to parties with him.......then you'll know when he answers you.
2006-11-04 01:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by CoLoMBiaNRicAn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem of maturity is that you are required to remain mature even when those around you are not. Sooner or later, you will learn it is easier and more congruent if you associate with people who share your values. This means as your values change, you will need periodically to change your friends. And it's difficult to do so when a friend is an intimate, as your bf is, but you have to do so anyway. This is also a problem that couples have when one member of a couple suddenly goes sober or stops using drugs, and the other doesn't. It usually means the relationship will end. If you are young and your bf doesn't have mature judgment, he will not likely change. You can ask him to, but I wouldn't nag, as neither of you will like you as a nag. And yes, your concerns about him cheating are valid, especially since he now gets to numb his conscience without you and in the presence of others. You need to find new friends who don't do these things. Take care of yourself.
2006-11-04 00:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by chuck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your freaking out a bit You are used to hanging with him going with him Hey at least hes not forgetting about u So that means he really likes u Most guys would go have fun and call at the end of the night So be thankful of u might end up losing what u have now
2006-11-04 00:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by Viper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was fun while it lasted but the time is coming to part. Stop quacking and playing guilt trips. Be the grown up one here and call the shots. Men sad as we are, dump our women very often by pushing their buttons so they can think that they actually ended it. Basically he has lost interest but seeing you will not let go he has you to bang if he doesn't score or if he feels the need to unload. its nothing personal, it's a man thang. Lots of luck, you are in control.
2006-11-04 00:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were cheating, he wouldn't call every hour or two. However, I think he still likes the partying life and you have moved on from it. You'll have to consider where to head from here and find other things that you both enjoy (other than just partying).
2006-11-04 00:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you're freakin. If he's callin you while he's out then he's most likely not cheatin. He's missin you. Maybe instead of stopping partying you should have just slowed down. Go out once in a while, if he's out then go with him, just be sure and let him have a boy's nite out once in a while. Good luck.
2006-11-04 01:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do get hurt again, honestly what's the worst that can happen??? You survived it the first time, you'll survive it again if it happens. Why worry about what could happen w/out any proof? Go w/the flow enjoy life and relax and remind yourself that you can't control the actions of other ppl. Let it go......
2006-11-04 01:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your relationship is about to end. He is going out partying and you are not with him. Of course he will meet new friends.
2006-11-04 00:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dunno. A guy needs his space, but when he starts spending too much time away from his girl, then you know you deserve better. If he says he isn't cheating, then believe him. A relationship is about trust. But if you ever find out that he is, dump him out and have no tears in your eyes. Ok?
2006-11-04 00:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋