2006-11-03 16:38:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i came from a family of 8 too; and we lost both our parents within 2 years of each other. keep calling each other regularly and find time to spend with each other. we are very close today and that was over 10 years ago!
2006-11-03 16:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it is going to be tough, but the older siblings are going to have to step up and help carry the burden of the house chores helping younger siblings with their baths, chores, homework, meals and bedtime for the really worn out parent that is not only dealing with the loss themselves, but have the stress of dealing with the finacial, raising 8 children, and seeing to it that the family needs are met. A schedule for the siblings to follow is a good start, making everyone a part of the responsibilities of the household chores and being their brothers or sister keepers. Don't be ashamed to ask for any help the community has to offer. You don't have to do this alone. If the living parent or siblings need counseling get it and don't delay. Get into a support group. They have several in every community and above all don't deny any family member the chance to talk about their loss when they feel the need too. It will help them and may very well help you. Encourage them to talk about how they feel to one another and let allow them to heal in their own way. God Bless you and Good Luck
2006-11-04 00:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if it is destined to fall apart & your parents were the only thing keeping it together, then just let it go.... but if there really is a connection there, then just keep in touch. some people will be closer than others, but that is the way things always go. try to host a once a year get together & make it anual- i suggest making it a few weeks after Christmas if everyone lives far away because then things will be easier to attend after Christmas when everything calms down.
2006-11-04 00:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and stay in touch. E-mail them if you can't call. Continue to do family traditions that you did when they were alive. Get together when ever you travel though where they live. Don't let a birthday go by without a card. Family is always family. The younger kids still need to see the family as their own village. Hope you see my point.
2006-11-04 00:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by freesample1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say there has to be a leasder in the pack that emails or calls at least monthly. Or, you could host your own blog like I did to post pictures and talk about what is going on. I think it's called blogspot.com. Why not host a party remembering your parents. Dig up old pictures and just talk about memories!
2006-11-04 00:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sharonzeke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lost both of mine this past year. seven siblings, and everyone seems lost. I think right now, we need our space.
2006-11-04 00:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tough call but can be done. Depends on how old everyone is.
2006-11-04 00:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋