My bf said he doesn't feel the same any more as when we first started going out. Whenever I let him feel I love him so much he doesn't seem to be as interested in me as before. But when I show him I don't care, he's crazy about me. I'm really confused. What is it with him? Don't people like to hear "I love you"? But why does he behave the opposite way? Can you suggest something i can do to make him feel as new and fresh and excited as when we first started going out? Thanks a lot!
2006-11-03 16:17:06 · 8 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys live to pursue, once they know they have the fish, they throw it back into the pond.
Play hard to get, but not too hard, he may think you're uninterested as well.
2006-11-03 16:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by iban h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right about boys! Ignore them and they adore you, love them and they take you for granted. Go figure. Why waste your time trying to entertain him fresh and new exciting ideas? If he doesn't respond, you will just feel like a fool. May I suggest you not take this relationship so serious. Take the good times and if it starts getting too rough spend your time seeking out activities that you are interested in regardless if he is or not.
2006-11-04 00:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what I just went through. Guys honestly don't know what they want sometimes! It sounds like he wants the physical perks of a relationship, but not the commitment. It probably scares him to think that you may no longer be interested in him when you act like you don't care. My advise: Tell him exactly how you feel. Don't give him a lecture, but confront him on his behavior and try to talk it out. BUT be Very Careful! He might either try to sweet talk you or be very vague in his answers. If he does either, I advise you to move on and find the next lucky guy! No one deserves to be jerked around! Best wishes to you!
2006-11-04 00:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Eyerichlassie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dress sexy and deprive him of sex, watch him beg... also give him alot of space, dont have 3 hr convos on the phone with him, when he wants off dont seem all sad, when he wants to talk to u he will, if u dont seem there for him all the time he'll realize how much he needs u, and he's a guy so yeah he needs u!
2006-11-04 00:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should play hard to get for a while...don't suck up to him as much you know..show him that if he keeps playing around he could lose you. but don't play to hard..play it where he is all over you and stuff like that. make him want you. he loves you, guys just don't saying ot or express it that often..only the gay wanna be men do that lol j/k but yea try that hard to get strategy it might work. but you have to be string about it to lol. good luck
2006-11-04 00:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by anthony h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is that he isn't that into you but he wants to keep you around, so when you seem to distance yourself he thinks you might end the relationship.
2006-11-04 00:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's cheating on you! when you get clingy he says back off, can't handle too much at once[other women], when you pull back he feels rejected and not in control.......leave and see what happens.
2006-11-04 00:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by aussieblonk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes losing it, its his fault, he wants to have that beginning relationship feeling, where its all about the "hunt"
2006-11-04 00:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋