he's one of my best friends. we're in the ninth grade. he really likes me. i think he's amazing, but i just DON'T like him that way. i actually really like his verrrrrrrry attractive good friend. so how can handle this?? how can i NOT mess up this friendship?
2006-11-03 16:14:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pop his cherry...
2006-11-03 16:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Transgénico 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle confrontation go ahead and think it out first and tell him the way it is. If not write him a letter so you can acknowledge it later that there is an understanding between you both. He may not enjoy it or he can take it well, which will be determined how well you communicate it. If you bring up his verrrrrrrry attractive good friend, you risk making him wrong and you as a shallow person. Relationships should be based on respect and admiration along with integrity, support and compatibility. More like a friendship with love.Good luck!
2006-11-03 16:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by mikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is a really good guy.
You might not realize it now but your friend might be the perfect guy for you but the timing is just off. Your in high school and you should definitely have fun. Right now your probably more into looks than substance.
If I were you I would try my best to not hurt your friend as you never know what changes life might bring, just because you don't like him now doesn't mean you won't develop feelings for him eventually.
If you have any interest in keeping him as your good friend, you definitely should not date his friend, that will crush the guy, if he really is as into you as you say.
Also if you think he is such a good guy, why not hook him up with one of your friends. Since you don't have feelings for your friend it should not be a problem. It might be worth a try. Who knows, maybe he'll hit things off with one of your friends and he'll gradually get over his crush on you. However this can be risky if down the road you eventually start liking your friend.
2006-11-03 16:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in the ninth grade too, and ive had the same situation. I kind of let it go, eventually he will realize that u dont like him. If he asks you out, be like you know i dont look at you liek that. but if hes a true friend, he wont leave u just cause u arent in luv with him. And its perfecttly ok that u like his hot friend, but dont always tell ur friend about it, because it will mess up his friendships with his friend. Don't worry eventually he will get it that you arent the girl, or that he needs to learn to move on and get it in his system that u dont like him. Good luck, and ive mine worked out, im sure urs will too.
2006-11-03 16:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by chintu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very difficult, emotional attachment, especially one such as love, is very delicate. You are just going to have to be honest and tell him you dont see him that way. Dont try to sugar coat it with the your like a brother excuse, that just hurts. Tell him the truth and dont try and justify yourself because you are not required. Also, remember that ninth grade is a very difficult time for all teens and hormones are deadly weapons.
(remember, things dont always end up like the movies)
2006-11-03 16:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by //// 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in deep dodo. No matter what you do, you're going to be the bad guy (I mean girl). If you straight up come out and make it clear to him, he'll get mad at you, and if he asks you and you reject him, he'll be mad at you. It's a very tough spot. I'm not sure if there is a good answer.
Rule of thumb, if a guy and girl are really good friends - one of them likes the other one; especially when they're both single like you to are.
2006-11-03 16:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've encountered this before. I just told my guy friend straight that we're too close as friends to be together, and that I don't feel anything romantic towards him.
Hopefully he gets it and not take it in the wrong way.
2006-11-03 16:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by le_stats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are that good of friends then just smack him upside the head and ask him what he's thinking. That's what I've had to do. You just gotta be up front and go "hey man we're friends and we're hella close I don't wanna mess that up for anything."
2006-11-03 16:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nicely that you just don't think of him that way. If he's a true friend, he'll understand and remain your friend. If not, then you don't need him as a friend anyway.
2006-11-03 16:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im having the same problem. just tell him u dont want to be any more than friends.
2006-11-03 16:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Still Doll << 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what u say it could mess up this friendship
2006-11-03 16:17:34 · answer #11 · answered by lady_drama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋