She tells you who to date and not date, she makes sure you're doing alright in school by asking every detail about homework, grades, courses, she criticizes everything you do, when you guys spend time together outside she questions what you're wearing, she practically orders for you in restaurants, when we cross streets she holds your hand, basically she acts like a mother to me.
I'm 22 and she's 29. I realize there's a big age gap. When I was a child, I thought, maybe when I'm over 18, she'll treat me like an adult. But that's not happening. I know that she does this because she loves me and cares for me, but there a lot of sisters who love their sisters and still treats them like adults. Little things like, telling me what to eat in restaurants is no big deal, but interferring with my dating life is crossing the line. We live in different cities, but when she comes over we're always arguing about something. I wish she could treat me like a friend instead of a "daughter".
2006-11-03 16:13:57 · 7 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I already have a mother telling me what to do, I don't need my sister doing the same thing.
2006-11-03 16:15:22 · update #1
why not have a heart to heart talk with her about this?
2006-11-03 16:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my daughters. Once they both got married, things got a little better, but not much. Still a lot of tension. The younger one (your counterpart) seems to be handling it very well, however. She listens, but then very politely says something like, "Hmmm...interesting. Isn't it amazing how two people from the same family can have such different opinions?" Or, something like that. Yes, her older sister drives her crazy. And the older one feels the same. I hope that over time, they both learn to mellow out around each other. Maybe when the both have kids things will change for the better. Good luck!
2006-11-03 17:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow my sister is so not like that. I'm the one who does that to her. I don't like her going off and acting all crazy. Maybe you should tell your sister how you feel, I mean you two are adults and she should start treating you like one. I'm sure she will understand.
Peace out!
2006-11-03 16:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her, tell her how you feel
make her understand that you are an adult now,
don't forget to tell her that you appreciate all the thing she did o you, and now you want to live your life.
2006-11-03 17:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by blue_angle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk to her, tell her just what you told us. Sometimes it's hard for an older sibling to realize that the younger really isn't a baby anymore.
2006-11-03 16:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one in this life can treat you in any way unless you allow them to. You are obviously very immature and childish hence you get treated like a child and being so childish you do not know how to stand up for yourself. Hence your big sister is still treating you like a child. grow up if you don't like it and stand up for yourself, failing that would you like me to offer you some cheese with your whine.
2006-11-03 16:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her that God made a mistake and she was it
2006-11-03 16:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋