Last night I went on a date with a girl and 3 hours into the date she wanted to have sex already. I told her it's too soon and we should wait. Am I being a dumbass for saying no to sex with a hot woman I just met?
2006-11-03 16:10:30 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's very mature of you. whenever i'm on a date all the guy wants to do is get in my pants. thanks for showing me not all guys are the same.:]
2006-11-04 02:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days, if I had to do the dating thing, I would wait till I knew the guy a yr before I would do anything.. there is just much that can go wrong.. and the main ingrediant of a relationship is TRUST !! How can you trust a person when you have only known them an hour or there abouts ??? God bless
2006-11-03 16:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If only more guys were like you! Props to you for not taking advantage of the situation! You sounds like a really great guy, and yes, sex on the first date is not okay in my book, but I'm sure to others it is. The problem with sex on the first date is you do not know the person well enough to have sex with them, who knows what kind of diseases they could possibly have, their is no emotional attachment and I believe that love comes first and then sex.
2006-11-03 16:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally i would say yes your dumb... but if you really like it dont ruin it with sex. I told my current gf no to sex 4 times before we finally did it and i told her it was becuase i really wanted her and really liked her and didnt want to ruin anything with sex. We have been together for a long time now and i know its not because of a sexual infatuation and im glad i made her wait. I am totally in love with her now and she is amazing. Yes she is also a very attractive woman, not just saying that beucase it would make a difference. It is much harder to say no to a hott girl than an ugly one i mean we are guys but that doenst mean we dont have feelings. if you want the relationship to go somewhere make sure you really like her and she really likes YOU and not your sex or body!
2006-11-03 16:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by stiffler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could, but experience tells me that it's better to wait until you more about the person. Sex is way better when there's some depth of feeling from both partners. But the best advise is to wait for marriage when they've commited themselves to you; that way you don't have to wonder how many partners your girl has had.
2006-11-03 16:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by Eyerichlassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would doing what you want make you a dumbass? I think it's fine. If you didn't want to have sex with her because you actually wanted to get to know her first - well, I think that makes you a pretty cool guy.
2006-11-03 16:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being a dumbass, if you want a relationship with the person you would get to know them first.
2006-11-03 16:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex when both of you feel the time is right. It may be date #1 or date #8, but when you BOTH are ready.
2006-11-03 16:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!
if she was that eager to have sex after 3hrs into the date then that was nothing new to her. she probably has sex with people she just met all the time. i think you made a very wise decision.
2006-11-03 16:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by KiM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, u r being dumb. even millions of gals advice u not to have sex on 1st date, but thats their opinion. gals cant control their hormones when they are really excited.
for the love of god, NEVER REJECT gal's offer ok ?
if u reject her, means she is not good enuff for her. (well, thats what she will think.)
now, ur gal love u so much that she considers on having sex with u, and u broke her heart.
call her NOW !! and fix another date !! say u are sorry for being dumb. she's wayyy too hot for u. and ask her whats her favourite condom flavour. call her NOW !!
i was onced in ur shoes. she never wanna listen to my calls again, EVER !!
2006-11-03 16:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do things at different paces & that's cool - as long as you're both ok with it then don't worry. No one should feel obliged into sex so I think you did the right thing for you.
2006-11-03 16:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋