When going on a first date do you think any kissing or hugging should be involved? Or do you think its inappropirate at that time, because your getting to know each other. And getting to know each other in a kissing, hugging way can take time for some people, like me.
2006-11-03 16:05:42 · 23 answers · asked by Kalah E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You only get one first kiss. Don't waste it.
Some couples (even today!) share their first kiss after the minister says, "you may kiss the bride." Kind of romantic in some ways.
My best relationship, we didn't kiss until maybe a month after we'd been going out. We moved very slowly, but I felt no pressure. And neither did she. It was actually pretty nice. You know what they say, "it's not the act, it's the anticipation." And when we finally had that first kiss.... ho boy let me tell you... She was the best for a reason.
I think the first date should be about getting to know one another rather than consuming your time with lust. For me usually though, I want her to know that I'm a class A kisser. Just a teaser though, at the end of the night as we say goodbye. 'Course I usually know the girl already. It's generally not like we just met that week. If I'm taking a girl out who I just met, I won't be so forward. A hug probably. Come to think of it, that's how it was with the girl I was talking about in the above paragraph.
2006-11-03 16:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of personal preference. Some people are a little more comfortable with it than others.
Personally I don't think I've ever had a good first date that didn't end with some making out.
But if I had to guess from personal experience these days it is pretty common to kiss on the first date.
But again it is a matter of personal preference and one way is not necessarily better than the other.
2006-11-03 16:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying about waiting a little while. Sometimes it is better that way but then again sometimes the time is just right to steal a little kiss I wouldn't recommend a heavy makeout session or anything but I don't see anything wrong with hugging and kissing a little bit as long as you can keep it under control :) Have fun on your date and be safe.
2006-11-03 16:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by chica bonita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on how well you know the person. If y'all have been friends for a while and are comfortable with them, then hugging and kissing isn't inappropriate unless the other person doesn't feel comfortable with it. However, if you haven't know them for that long or aren't that close then I would avoid it just to be safe. I know I hate it when I guy I barely knows tries to kiss me. I'm always thinking in the back of my head "I've only known you for like 2 hours!!"
2006-11-03 16:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if she did want the kiss, you didn't screw up the relationship. If that was what it took to end a relationship nobody would make it past the first date. You looked for the signs and decided not to kiss her. If you misinterpreted, oh well. We're guys, we are entitled to misread body language. Most guys wouldn't have even looked for the signs. From my experience, it is better to not give her the kiss when she wants it, than to give her the kiss when she doesn't want it. You made the right call.
2016-05-21 22:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think giving the guy a kiss on the cheek at the end is nice. If you had a great time, and he was very nice and respectful, and he doesn't push, then a dry kiss on the lips is OK.
But this is your chance to see if he respects you. Any guy who respects women will admire you for holding off on a wet kiss for a few dates. Even the modern, liberal ones like me.
But if he is pushy on the first date, then he doesn't even respect you enough to PRETEND that he respects you. That should be a warning sign.
2006-11-03 16:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by ksjazzguitar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ok to hug at the greeting but no more then that. Sometimes when you take it further then it ends up misleading. You dont want him/her to think you want to jump right into the sack do you ? Take time to talk and be slow about it. This will eventually make your relationship stronger and they will respect you more. Kissing him/her at the end of the date on the cheek is also ok but dont let it go any further
2006-11-03 16:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hugging is just fine.
From there on you should gradually mave as you feel comfortable But do not Use emotions alone
Use Common Senese
Remeber once you get in too far there is no turning back
2006-11-03 16:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Max360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually do not kiss on a first date, maybe a hug if she initiates it but usually its always best to be a perfect gentleman and keep your hands and lips to yourself. I have probably had some dates where they didn't think I was attracted to them because of it though.
-NmD!
2006-11-03 16:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, u shouldn't. Maybe holding ur date's hand is ok. But further than that, I think u should wait till ur both r a bit closer to each other. Yeah, it is innapropriate. Whatif she turned out to not be right for u and u ended up hating her personality? Then it will be real bad for u,lol.
2006-11-03 16:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋