He's a reasonably good kid, and I trust him for the most part, but kids are kids. Does it matter if there is something special going on, like a school dance?
2006-11-03 15:57:24 · 27 answers · asked by SDC 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I must be politically incorrect and stone age
My boy is home Sunday - Friday at 9pm Saturday if with people I know or at school function by 1030.
Weekdays - no real reason for him to be out unless he is pulling a cash wage.
Weekend he doesn't have a license so he can be home.
It is your responsiblity to have him home not his.
2006-11-03 16:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just showing some support for Robert W and his "stone age" view. I wasn't allowed to roam freely at 14, and a lot of kids I knew that did at that age got into trouble. I knew too many girls having sex and drinking and experimenting with drugs at that age because their parents did let them loose with no real idea of where they were. I know the risk is always there, but 14 year olds are just so stupid and eager-beaver to be accepted. They'll do a lot of things even a 16 year old will think twice about.
At 16, I was allowed out on weekends til 11:30 and weekdays til 8:30. My parents did give me some consideration if there was a dance or the fair was in town. Admittedly, I'm a girl, and some people think that makes a difference.
2006-11-03 16:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be at home and in bed by 8:30, so he will get his rest and be wide awake in school the next day. There are so many children that fall asleep during class, because their parents let them stay up and go out on school nights. If there is a dance or special event, then you could extend the time depending on when that event would be over. Living in a small town, there wouldn't be a whole lot going on that he would need to stay out late. Maybe let him stay up later on weekends, since he could sleep in the next morning. Good Luck.
Have a great day!
2006-11-03 16:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Alf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your town there is usually a curfew....
When my kids (now 19 and 17) were 14 our rule was home by 10 pm unless there was something special going on that they had preapproved permission (at least 24 hours in advance) to attend (football game, dances, movies etc.) .....
In order to get preapproval they needed to tell me when they wanted to go , who they would be with, what time they thought the event would be over (If an event extended over the time alloted they had to call and let me know plans had changed slightly)....
You ae right kids will be kids so having them get preapproved permission for past 10pm things getting the preapproval will help you know and decide if you want your child attending and will give the child responsibility to get te permission in a timely manner... By linking priviledges (staying out later than 10) with responsibilities (getting preapproval) you can teach your child a great lesson to take into adulthood while also knowing where and with whom your child is hanging...
Kids are less likely to lie about where they are if they know you will explain exactly why they can not go sometimes (be honest) and exactly what you expect of them when out...
2006-11-03 16:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a small town (1,960 people). My siblings always managed to find trouble. I am kind of amused at the way people seem to think that the size of the town makes a difference as to the amount of trouble a kid can get into. 1030 on weekends and 800 on school nights. Special occasions depends on the event and about1 hr after said event is over.
2006-11-03 17:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if he is walking home or getting a ride. If walking I would say before dark. If in a car I would say 9 and work your way to 10. If it is for a school dance I am sure that the school would know an appropriate time to end it. But if it is for a sport they can sometimes go over, which you should be there to watch him anyways.
2006-11-03 20:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was that age I was suppose to be at home (not necessarily inside when the street lights came on. Unless there was a school dance or something else going on. then i had to be home within a half hour after that. I'm grown now and looking back it seemed reasonable and I'll probably enforce those rules on my son when he gets older.
2006-11-03 16:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by somethingorginaltoponder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My rule for my kids all the way until age 18 was:
Sunday - Thurs: 8 pm (homework already done)
Friday - Sat: 10 pm if hanging out, midnight if an event
A special event we'd decide what time would be fair. It's important to keep kids off the streets.
2006-11-03 16:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you trust your son so why do you need a specific time he has to be in, that defines your level of trust? Kids will be kids implies your son lacks certain judgments that might get him into trouble or do you mean kids will be kids pertain to other kids. If you instilled the proper values in your son and you trust his judgment, than why limit your trust.
I would tell him that you love and trust him but unfortunately because of simple statistical data that shows that most bad things happen late at night(drunk driving accidents, violence and certain crimes), so at 14 years old he should be home and safe at a reasonable hour. I used to tell my son: "I trust you implicitly but you're my son and I love you, I can't turn that off and I certainly can't go to sleep until I know you're home, so for my sake be home before 11:00 and no matter what time or what reason, call if you'll be late. I'm sure he will understand.
2006-11-03 16:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Logicnreason 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd say about 8:30-9:00 is a fair time. It depends though if he is at a friend's house whose paren't you know or not. If not, perhaps that time or earlier, and if you do know the other kid's parents you can extend that time.
For things like school dances, plays, and so on, have him come home whenever it finishes.
2006-11-03 16:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by talon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋