Alright so me and this guy are pretty much 'friends with benefits' kind of thing. I like him, he likes me. We both know, we talk about it. Plus we kiss all the time. But I don't get why he hasn't asked me out yet. Sure I want to date him and I gave him many signs. I mean we pretty much act like were dating already but I don't know what or is holding him back. I know it's deff not another person. I've known him for awhile and we tell each other everything. But this just doesn't seem to cut it.
Any ideas or maybe approaches? I mean I have mentioned it to him and it just out the other ear.
2006-11-03 15:54:08 · 13 answers · asked by britt h. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you are pretty much 'friends with benefits' thing. He has no reason to ask you out- he already gets what he wants from you. You mentioned it and he ignored you because he's only interested in 1 thing from you, not a relationship.
2006-11-03 15:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it all in the first sentence.. Friends with benefits !! why should he want more when he already has it all.... He has the *benefits* with out the commitment. He can have what he wants, when he wants it, where he wants it, and then if the opportunity arrises he can also get all the *benefits* in othe places too.. I am not saying he is doing this deliberatly, because I do not know him, but you can bet that thought is some where inside his brain files. Unless you want this relationship to stand still or go no where fast, I suggest you STOP the *benefits* all together. Shake him up a little bit and see where it goes. His true feelings will prob. surface real fast ! God bless
2006-11-04 00:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have mentioned it, and he doesn't seem to care then sorry to say but you may have a "JUST friends with benefits" thing on your hands and nothing more. If he's already getting the benefits what makes you think he would want to commit? Old saying but true, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?? and often.
2006-11-03 23:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by CoutureCutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u agreed with him about the situation yet your putting expectations on him you havent agreed on. the thing thats wrong is you want more and your expecting him to just know it without u saying it even though u agreed its a friends with benefits thing.
dont worry your a typical woman (you expect men to read your mind)
2006-11-04 00:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him out, you make the first move, because it seems to me that he is scared that what if what you have is ruined by dating. Who knows, you'll never know unless you talk to him and find out. Good luck to you.
2006-11-03 23:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by jessicaball2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give signs. Just ask him out, i'm 100% sure he's gonna say yes since you guys kissed and stuff. && you said you like him and he likes you.Just go for it.
2006-11-03 23:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by nicokyu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not ask you out then it is my guess that he only wants to be friends with you.
2006-11-03 23:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he have to date you if he's already sleeping with you? He doesn't need to wine and dine you, you're already putting out.
2006-11-03 23:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him straight out whats going on. something like "Why aren't we together" or "Do your parents not let you date or something?" or "Do you think we should go out?"
2006-11-04 00:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Emmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he gonna commit now? He has the life!
2006-11-03 23:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋