Two bottles of champagne were purchased by you and your significant other (S.O.). Your S.O. pops the second bottle. Your S.O. has had other instances of drowning a bottle, when celebrating..etc etc..So you say, Let me get some, before you drink it all. Your S.O. takes offense, saying that you were trying to be sarcastic, and inferring that your statement was based off of the fact that he has had alcohol problems in the past. Your S.O. blows up at you saying that all you had to do was say, can I have some of the champagne...What should I do or say in this situation?
2006-11-03 15:44:50 · 14 answers · asked by prettydebutante 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I am not the S.O.
2006-11-03 15:48:32 · update #1
No i don't think you were wrong at all, maybe you were thinking get in where you fit in!!! before S.O. down all of it, if you both Drink then why should you have to say can i have some champagne!! he should have ask you to have some first anyway! here what you should do buy the next bottle and ask him to have some, this will show him how he should do things the next time.
2006-11-03 16:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your S.O. is overly emotional and carrying baggage from his previous abuse problems....We call that (drug counselors) recovery with the same mentality. A lot of recovering people (not all) get over the usage but carry LARGE amounts of emotional baggage. Your S.O. should not be drinking any kind of alcohol, he knows it so he takes offense of anyone mentioning his drinking patterns......he is not being true to his recovery.....
2006-11-03 15:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur S.O. is drunk... he just cant get over the fact that maybe he had a drinkin problem before, and is afraid that you mind his actions thats why he is a bit more sensitive toward these situations... so why do you just sit down and tell me that you dont mind about his pass and you mean nothing to offend him.. =] make it up and it work things out.. that could avoid trouble for next time =]
2006-11-03 15:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you obviously touched a nerve for your S.O. to get so defensive. I would just try to calm down and not make it worse. But I would try to talk to the person later and work things out.
2006-11-03 15:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by acvader 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if someone told me that, I would be offended, too. Drinking too much is obviously a very sore subject for your SO. Everyone has feelings like that sometimes ... I'm sure there are things you overreact about, too. I guess just apologize and say you didn't mean it sarcastically, and that you'll try to be more tactful about the subject in the future.
2006-11-03 15:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have said....."A trivial argument leads to an irrelevant fight which only creates unnecessary stress, Is this really worth arguing about?" Then just apologize because whether you intended to or not, you did offend your "S.O." then kiss and make up and go on with your evening. ;)
2006-11-03 15:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by lilmenbc39 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he knows he has a bit of a problem, and is sensitive about it. Proceed with caution, this person may be headed toward being a full blown alchie
2006-11-03 15:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 06:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Pour me a glass to please". Youdr added on last part of the sentence is somewhat sarcastic even tho it may be true. Good luck. Pops
2006-11-03 15:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them not to take it personal. you just want some champagne, right?
2006-11-03 15:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by Army Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋