My ex-boyfriend and I were in a very serious relationship about three years ago. We broke up on terrible terms- I won't go into detail, but he completely broke my heart and I told him that I never wanted to speak to him again.
It's been three years, and he has called me occasionally to ask how my life is, although, the majority of our short conversations consists of questions surrounding my love life. It's been quite apparent that he's still somewhat hung up on me.Though we've talked (and very awkwardly, at that) occasionally, he has never said anything truly shocking...until now.
He told me that he's still in love with me. I thought he was trying to pull a joke on me at first, but I slowly realized he meant it. I don't love him anymore. I did, but that era is over for me. I had to be completely finished with him in order to move on. Obviously he hasn't moved on-but it's odd-a few months ago he told me he had a girlfriend that he was in love with. Why the sudden confession? Help!
2006-11-03 15:28:21 · 5 answers · asked by Arabella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i went through a similar situation - i think that once you lose all connections and they realize you've moved on, they really think about all the times they treated you badly, and feel guilt and want to in some weird way make up for it. me and my ex were on and off so whenever we broke up he never really tried to get me back because he already knew we would get back together - when it ended for real (he cheated) and he knew i moved on, he freaked out because he knew that i was serious this time and there was not anything he could do about it. a year later he started dating another girl but he would still call late at night every now and then (most likely drunk) to "see how i was doing" and even threatened to hurt himself if i didnt call him. it got old though, and you learn all the dirty tricks in the book, and he probably was feeling lonely and thought just maybe, there would be a chance we could hook up. thats just my thoughts and experience though!
2006-11-03 15:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by ScoRpiO21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and some space. What you have here is a needy person for a boyfriend. If you are willing to just take what he has to offer, then wait for him. He has lots of problems including the daughter. His parents are disgusted that he hasn't made better decisions and you have been easy on him. You just take him as he is. That is why he will return. He is trying to make some kind of a stand now. However, it is too late. The ex wife moved out of state and his daughter is gone. He makes bad decisions and he truly is spineless. He will have nowhere else to go so he'll be back just give him a little time. You must be a really nice person.
2016-05-21 22:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not in love with you. He can see that you have moved on with your life, and this is his pathetic attempt to keep you dwelling in the past, where he was an important part of your life, rather than finding happiness with someone else.
2006-11-03 15:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is talking "junk" to you. He wants to keep you on a string in case his other conquest don't work out. Move on with your life. Good luck. Pops
2006-11-03 15:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were his best one and he misses you, dont just leave him their hangin, do somthin, i dont kno, hook him up with a similar friend
2006-11-03 15:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋