2006-11-03 15:25:32 · 6 answers · asked by Confused_and_Depressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Lose the boyfriend or find some where else to go.
2006-11-03 17:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Someone who has the same problem I had!
When I was 16 my mom remarried and I was kicked out. Her reasoning was that she needed a life too! She said she was done raising me and asked me if I wanted her to be alone forever. She told me I should be happy for her and grow up. To this day I still get angry talking about it, but that was 10yrs. ago.
There were times when I was down and out and asked if I could come live w/ them until I could save up enough money for an apartment. The answer was, no. Her husband doesn't like me and wants nothing to do w/ me. Her own child....second best!
My point is....you are not alone! I thought I was for the longest time. Sometimes our parents do stupid, irreversible damage w/o even knowing it. I hate to say it, but you are on your own,as far as living is concerned. (atleast for now)....It may be a bit of a struggle, but you will get by. The thought that helped me was....she is selfish....I can be too! Work your butt off and save,save,save. Get your own place and live your life. Don't dwell in the past. I did, and it was very unhealthy.
We all yern for our mother's love. Even if we are shot down everytime. This is very painful (I know), but think about it.... what can your mother offer you right now? Love? Doubt it! Support? Doubt it! Cut ties w/ her for a while. Take control of the situation. Do to her what she has done to you. Eventually, she will come around and feel so guilty.
I hate to sound so negative, but I have walked in your shoes. And it sucked! The less you associate w/ her, the more likely you are to succeed. I know you may feel hopeless, but you are not! You can be strong and get through this. I promise!
I am know 26 yrs. old, and have a son and a boyfriend. I have given up on any kind of relationship w/ my mother other than a quick hi bye conversation. I thank counseling for that!
I share your pain. I hope you get all the answers you are looking for. You deserve so much better than the hand you have been dealt. Deal yourself a new hand.
2006-11-03 16:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ron's wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last thing in the world you should want to do is go where you're not wanted. That's TOUGH! Personally, I think your mom should be flogged for putting the BF before her own flesh and blood, but that's just my opinion. You have to abide by her decision, unfortunately. But hey, if she doesn't want you...why should you want her? Right? Move in with your boyfriend instead. Hehehe!
2006-11-03 16:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are a minor, she has no choice. If you are an adult, you'll have to talk to her about it. Maybe you can stay with her for awhile until you can find new roommates or something.
2006-11-03 15:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure she is really your mom, Because she sure isn't acting like one,, Sounds like she needs to grow up,, and get her head out of her BF's ****!!
2006-11-03 15:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live on ur own then, rather then she might throw temper on u after u move back.
2006-11-03 15:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by sznnw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋