I always fear of being rejected and try to have the "go hear it is green now" eye contact from a lady. But I don't approach ladies in that way either. I just talk to them in a day to day business style. I never had a chance to talk like that to a girl I am attracted to.
What shall I do?
I am very shy when it comes to asking a girl out, but can talk for days about school ,or business.
Help , please.
Do I need the "eye contact " approval to avoid being rejected?
2006-11-03 15:23:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a_fellow_human.....
Can you explain "the body" thing?
2006-11-03 16:07:11 · update #1
Shyness and fear of rejection are there for a reason.
Nature is trying to stop you from being rejected.
If you think a woman might reject you, she almost certainly will.
If you ever meet a woman who you don't feel like that around, ask her.
2006-11-03 15:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the eye contact approval, but it sure helps. Usually you can tell if someone is into you.....is there flirting? Physical contact? If you think you are getting the classic flirting signs, go ahead, and make a move.The worst that can happen is you'll get the your a great friend talk and you'll be just where your at now. Take it from me, most females are just as nervous as guys are. In fact I am the same age and have never asked a guy out. I have my sights set on someone right now, and I think I am just gonna do it. I don't wanna be rejected either but I think I could deal with that better then the constant thought of what if? What if i just asked him out and he did say yes?!?! What ever you do just be yourself...Good Luck!!
2006-11-03 23:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this whole dating thing is quite difficult myself. What I did was that I get to know the person, through introduction, chitchat, by talking on other occassion, work, social functions. Just get close to someone you're interested and develop a conversation. Asking a girl would be much eaiser once you find something of common interests like similar foods, movies, books, a walk in the park, sports. Obviously you must have places you like doing these things and then asking a person to join you in these activity is very normal and easy.
Usually and mostly food. Ask a person to lunch first. Everybody got to eat right? Good luck.
2006-11-03 23:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Titan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
awww... u poor thing! =) thats kinda cute. ha ha. well. u know. we are afraid of being rejected as well. try flirting a bit first. the best way to tell when we like u is when we do little things and we flirt a lot. like say if she waits for u even tho u don't ask ehr too. or she always walks rly close to u. or she makes a lot of eye contact and looks right at u. does she come over and talk to u? just regular chit chat nothing business related or any specific question? hope it all works out , Caitlin
2006-11-03 23:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by i.WoNt.SaY.iT. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its time you grew up and become a man. You may be shy but you can over come that. Learn to talk to women. They are just as nervous as you are when it comes to men.
IF you see a girl you want......talk to her, look straight into her eyes. Communicate!! Let her know you are interested in her.
Rejection is a horrible thing.....BUT...it is a part of life and you best get used to it!! Have you ever put in for a job and was not hired? There is more jobs to have. Same with a woman....if she rejects you, there are thousands out there just waiting for you to say "HI". Go for it. Don't hold back. Good luck. Pops
2006-11-03 23:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rejection is part of the game, if you seriously want to date and have a good relationship, you are going to have to take the risk of being rejected. You need to get out there and just go for it! You will be glad you did. You will learn to accept the rejections and learn from them and go on. Eventually you will find that special someone that will be your soul mate for life. Go on, you can do it. I know that you can. Good Luck
2006-11-03 23:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you need some courage a faint heart never won a fair lass my man, im shy as shy can be but when it comes to a boy i love i will put myself out there. you must relieaze its like how you learn to ride a horse skateboard or anything else that holds risk your gonna fail its gonna hurt and your gonna get better and better at it eye contact it important but coming from a shy girl its somtimes hard for me to do it so in no way is it fool proof i may like you alot but it takes time for me to engage in that way.
2006-11-03 23:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by a perfectly contradictory cat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh sweetie...take a chance. Look for body langauge- not eye contact. Some of us ladies were brought up proper- we are trained to look at someone whent hey are speaking...but if our eyes are on you and our bodies not...we are not interested.
2006-11-03 23:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by a fellow human 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm your age man, I'm the same problem, really I can't believe I haven't have a girlfriend in my entire life, and I love women, I see them all beautiful and attractive but my shyness is more powerful. I go to work everyday but have not motivation in my life. I just ask one favor to women, please be more friendly and open to guys you don't know, we are all not "players", we just want love
2006-11-03 23:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Juan 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
unfortunaetly the eye contact thing is overrated..cus it can easily be misinterpreted..so buddy the only thing you cando is muster up your confidence and ask girls out, otherwise you will nver get over the fear you have or your shyness..
2006-11-03 23:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋