I'm interested in a guy that I am not sure if he reciprocates my feelings. Is it too bold to say to him,: " Look, I don't want to marry you, I'm not looking to be your girlfriend or date you.But... I'm *very* sexually attracted to you and we seem to have an undeniable chemistry."
Is that just absolutely the wrong thing to say or would that totally turn him on (sadly, it *is* the truth!) but he's not in a position to make the first advance. (We're both in our 30's.)
2006-11-03 15:17:20 · 11 answers · asked by Gotham*City*Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(He's not married or in a relationship--I know a couple of people had suspected that. He's 100% single....but he's my college prof. and this is my last class and last semester EVER. Did I mention that he and I are the same age? Ah, the temptation with only 1 month left!!!)
2006-11-05 22:11:23 · update #1
you dont have anything to lose but the "ifs". dont bother with coming up with the right words to make it seem so perfectly legit. youre human-he's human... go for it and see what happens. if you keep pondering about it...it'll probably never happen and/ or you will come up with the most weird thing to say and it wont work out naturally.
when you get him to yourself... just take whatever is in his hands and place it down and start kissing him. if you say your guys' attraction is so undeniably, then he'll continue. you only live your 30s once!
best wishes. have fun
2006-11-03 15:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! it's absolutely *stupid* for u to do such a thing.
U can do this, go 2 him n tell that u wanna b his friend at fiest n then grdually u get 2gether n u'll then think that it was better 2 b a friend of him more than havin sex with him for few days n just throw him out of ur life like that.
Think of what might happen after u marry somebody else?
U'll miss him a lot then n why would'nt u marry him if u 're so attracted?
As a boy i say v luv 2 hang outwith cool gal friends n not whores.
That idea of urs will surely flop.
C'mon try 2 handle this in a good way, ur parents will b really happy n u can avoid diseases.
2006 does'nt mean de years of advancement in ways of sex, but humanity. Don' ever mistake this.
2006-11-03 15:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kiru 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly fine that you make the first move (unless he's married or in a relationship with someone else which is what it sounds like considering you say he's not in the position to make the first move) but I think I'd leave the sex statement out unless you make a habit out of casual sex or that's all you want. If he's available and interested once you get together then you can make the first sexual move, I think he'd like it. If he's taken you don't have the right to tempt him into messing up his life. Wouldn't want someone doing that to you, would you?
2006-11-03 15:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men say they want that sort of thing, but really they don't. I've tried it a couple of times and I think they really want to be the ones to make the first move. I guess just make it as clear as possible without saying it. I actually used that "I don't want to marry you" line, too. I think he got miffed, like why wouldn't I want to marry him? Dude, don't really know ya, just maybe want to, you know...without all the baggage and drama. I think that went to his head, though and he started playing games. That made him much less desirable after that.
2006-11-03 15:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are not in a relationship.... why not.... honestly it depends on a culture here you are in. Here in the Philippines most of the guys will be turned off with this situation. But you can do flirting and do things that can awaken his feelings. But if he is not really interested with you.... well. you have to start asking question why? Probably he's GAY!!! Or probably he is just faithful to his wife!!!! Come on!! Try to find another one!!! heheheehe... try me!!!!
2006-11-03 15:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by bugi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-09 02:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In certain deceisions, one has to be bold & firm too.
So decide & be bold.
2006-11-03 15:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by kingofuniverse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends.... if he is a 'nice guy' then it might offend him, but chances are he will easily accept wat ur sayin if he iznt in a relationship, so good luck and have fun ;)
2006-11-03 15:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea lets just give him sex cause we mean nothing, nice.
2006-11-03 15:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by dimondbacks7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do It!
2006-11-03 15:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋