Should my daughter be potty trained???

Question

My daughter will be 3 in december and was partially potty trained before her father and I went out of town for a week and left her with my parents who obviously didnt work with her now that we are home and have been for 3 months she refuses to use the potty and I know she is ready she changes her own diaper for goodness sake but when I discuss pantys with her she tells me she likes diapers she starts daycare in 2 weeks and Im a little emmbarased shes still in diapers along with her 1 year old brother so its very expensive how do I give her the confidence to use the potty?

I have tryed it ALL by the way we do a reward system when she was previously potty trained we bought her a bike and a potty doll who joins her when we try to get her to go and a little cheaper route we ve done her favorite, candy so she ll tell little storeys and sit on the toilet wipe and flush when shes done NOTHING but she thinks if she does that its treat time I have bought her movies watched them with her bought her books she loves to read but it dosent seem to help I have even gotten books for me to read...

Answer 1

Don't stress about it. Many kids aren't fully potty trained until 3 or 4 years old. She probably is seeing how you respond when she refuses to do it. Kids that are in that 2 & 3 yr stage often misbehave for the attention, even if it's negative attention. If you are stressed about it, she will sense it.
Try a different strategy. Put the potty in the living room for now and let her watch a favorite video, then slowly move it into the bathroom.
Let her run around naked. This is a great way to train and for many kids it "seals the deal" so to speak. They know what will happen if they go and it runs down their leg. I would get her out of diapers and pull ups, especially if she changes her own. She knows what she is doing and she knows when she needs to go. If she is naked, she will get herself to the bathroom. I worked with all 3 of mine!

One more thing, with my last boy the best thing I did was stop trying to train him. I completley stopped asking him every hour, completely stoppedtrying "stuff" with him. No rewards, no begging, no tricks. After a few weeks of me not saying anything to him about it, HE came to me and said "I have to go" and that was it, he was completley trained and never had an accident.

Answer 2

My daughter did was not completly potty tarined until 2 days before she turned 3, she was potty taring well prior to regressing after her baby brother was born. We purchased the DVD potty ime for girls, it enforces that big bigs use a potty, not diapers... I think it helped. We also took her out & puchased panties she liked Gymboree has some really cute ones as well as JC Penny has shimmery ones she loved. Potty Training however is diffrent for every child, and it just may be a bit longer for your daughter or she may wake up tommorow w/ it in her mind she won't wear diapers anymore. I would recommened taking diapers away completly and at night using pullups.. I don't think you shuld be embarresed of sending her to a new day care not fully potty trained, I am sure she will not be the only 3 year old that way. Also think about putting her in Pull Ups to go. She will probly make friends there that are potty trained & she will want to be like them, so don't stress. One last thing I have had many friends disapline for not using the potty I have never seen it work, I think loving encouragment (and sometimes turning the cheak at a accident) can really speed it up. Good Luck.

Make sure she either has her own pottty or a flip up seat for the big one, big pottys are scary for little bottoms that have to balance on the seat

Answer 3

When a child is being potty trained there should be only one person doing it.So when you left without her being fully potty trained then you made a huge mistake.Why is she being allowed to pick diapers over panties? It`s your choice not hers.I toliet trained my 23 month old at 22 months old.I wont lie,it was stessful.I wanted to give up and buy diapers and put him back in them.After a little over 2 weeks he was fully toliet trained including at night.Im the type that throws away any diapers when toliet training starts.Try it.The worst she can do is pee and mess on herself and she will not like it.It feels worst in underwear then in a diaper.You have bought alot for a little girl who is suppose to be going potty in the potty but is not.Cant blame her I guess.You are trying to brive her.She has all this new stuff for nothing.My little one got a hug and was told good boy and I would clap when he would use the toliet.That was good enough for him.

Answer 4

You are the mother. Don't ask her about panties, just put them on her. Start with her wearing them at home and she will learn to go to the potty or wet herself. She will see that wetting herself is not very pleasant and she will know that if she goes to the potty she won't have to deal with wet panties. She is smarter than you think. Treat her like a big girl and not a baby. Just remember that there never has been a person start college in diapers. It will happen eventually.

Answer 5

You gotta love the grandparents don't you? Well let me be honest, toddlers have their own schedule and I wouldn't be worried about daycare. If any thing this may help reenforce that all the other little girls are wearing big girl panties. Also, my daughter reverted to babyish ways when her little brother was born and this may be her way of holding on to mom and dad's attention. Be patient and keep going. Daycare may be the solution. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

reward systems are great. see if you can maybe find some of the "big girl" potty books. find some kind of motivation. if there's something she really wants, tell her you'll get it if she uses the potty.

Answer 7

just keep trying to motivate your child people achieve skills at different times in life

Answer 8

use some type of reward system
get her a toy if she uses the bathroom by herself

Answer 9

encoragement and just keep working with her

Answer 10

She will do it when she is ready.