After dating for two years, I recently told my girl that I wanted to take some space and date other people.
Why? Because during our two years of dating, I supported her through her college graduation and Teaching credential program. After she was hired to teach full-time, she got really busy and I accepted that.
Meantime, I had begun a new job in sales and worked about 8-10 hours a day to start it up Monday through Friday.
After 2-3 months she did not want to hear about my day at the office, said that I was giving 100% to my new job and only 50% to her. As a result, she said the solution was to take some space. I gave her all the space for like 2 wks...she started to call and invite me over for dinner..back together for a week...she came home and told me to go stay at my place because she was busy and didn't want to be bothered!
I stormed out and never looked back...then I called to get my stuff and tell her that I wanted space...
What's her problem?
2006-11-03 14:34:56 · 12 answers · asked by nikc_001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she doesnt prioritize and she let work take over her life. i think she's trying to satisfy everyone all at the same time and its taking a toll on her much less making her have different personalities.
of course any other person would feel frustrated for getting tossed around and hit in the head with confusion, but you have to understand that she's human. BUT it doesnt give her the right to keep you dangling on a thread.
obviously she still wants you around so try talking to her in a different environment or atmostphere-some where it wont remind her of work or school, etc. for instace the beach, a coffee shop, the place you first took her to confess your feelings. and then talk to her like as if its almost an ultimatum, but not.
tell her everything that you feel and how its affecting your relationship with her. talk about the way she act or the things that she does to hurt you or confuse you. tell her that youre going to let her deal with whatever she needs to deal with at her own pace. that youre going to respect her space so long she respects yours.
hopefully this is an eye opener for her or is helpful for you to think up something to do.
best wishes. stay true.
2006-11-03 14:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there isn't any kind of clear cut answer. People grow apart for all kinds of reasons. Sounds like you guys did too. Take a break - go out and have some fun, take another woman out to dinner. Don't go sleeping around, but test the waters and see how you feel. If it was meant to be with this one it will be.
2006-11-03 14:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like to me she don't need you any more like you just said you supported her Thur college graduation and teaching credential and she has a good jog she don't need you any more wish is so wrong and you start a new job and try to get it off the ground and she has a problem with that cut your loss now while you are taking your space their are other women's out their who will appreciate you she'll get hers the user good luck
2006-11-03 14:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me start off by saying that you are a god man!!!!!!! Second of all I think that now she has credentials behind her belt she really doesn' t need you any more. Thirdly, she doesn' t feel what she use to feel and i believe that she may like someone else or maybe spending time with someone else.It's kind of obvious front the outside looking in.
2006-11-03 14:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by biscuit181 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have many different problems. She could be cheating(don't accuse her of that unless you have cold hard evidence),pms'ing,confused, stressed out, or maybe it's just weird for her since you guys took a break. Just give her some time, and everything should be back to normal.
2006-11-03 14:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kylee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is just too busy with her job and is trying to blame you for not having any relationship time. Sometimes, no matter how much you care for someone, you just can't be together...and that sounds like what happen here unfortantly. I don't blame you, I would walk out too and go for greener pastures and find someone who will support you as much as you support them...good luck!
2006-11-03 14:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that sounds like me .. she probably just feels neglected even if shes not .. try talking to her about it don't walk away unless your really through with her .. it just makes things worse...
2006-11-03 14:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by mami2nate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she got some issues. i would give her the space that she wants but i wouldnt wait long
2006-11-03 14:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many women don't ever know what they want, you should've personally confronted her and asked her what the deal was
2006-11-03 14:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
problem might be it's not you who is her problem anymore....could be there is someone else on the sidelines(if not front and center)
2006-11-03 14:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋