I will probably be one of the very few people who will be coming alone (I don't have a boy friend currently). What can I do to feel less uncomfortable?
2006-11-03 14:32:45 · 17 answers · asked by GucciGirl 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Who cares if you're coming alone? At least your date won't embarrass you by hitting on the boss's wife/secretary/boyfriend/etc, passing out in the punch bowl, or otherwise making a fool of himself. Count yourself in the lucky bunch. Having someone on your arm can be extremely over rated!
How to deal? Dress appropriately, don't drink to much, and stay off of and out from under tables. Nothing good comes from bad behavior at an office party. Unless you're looking for another job! Keep it professional, make an appearance, and then graciously excuse yourself. Tell people you're a bit tired, or that you have another engagement. Then get the heck out of there unless you're having fun, or there's a hottie to chat up. Or a hottie friend of a hottie. Then stay. Otherwise, boogie on out of there after an hour or so.
2006-11-03 15:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you won't be the only one then why feel uncomfortable?
You said "Office Christmas Party" so I gather you are a professional? I have been in the business world a long time and if an actual "date" isn't available then ask yourself "who do I know" a business acquaintance? A company client? Another business that YOUR company would like to do business with? Then ask THAT person if they would accompany you to the party.
Make some major points with the Boss, have some fun, no obligations.
But if bringing a date would fell better then it doesn't have to BE a boyfriend, just a guy friend.
An unescorted female can often be the belle of the ball. Dance and talk with to whomever you want. Also an opportunity to shine on many levels. Assist the party itself. Even the best planned parties can lose focus.
Just a few thoughts................
2006-11-03 23:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anna M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood this notion that being seen without someone on your arm makes you feel uncomfortable. But my wife would agree with you and has told me that just eating out alone (when she was single) was uncomfortable for her. The time you spend unnattached should be helping you grow more independent and more confident in who you are. The 6 years I spent alone did a great deal to help me understand who I am and I wouldn't trade that time for anything! Now, you said this was a CHRISTMAS party, right? Then celebrate the one faithful man in your life, Jesus Christ, and enjoy the party with Him in your heart! Between now and the the day of the party, spend time with Him in prayer and review the Christmas story in your heart. Really let in sink in. Let this Christmas really be about you and Him. Then when you go to the party people will see the true spirit of Christmas on your face. Help them remember what the party is truly celebrating. I did this one year when I was alone and one man in particular even shared what I talked about with his family over their Christmas dinner a few nights later! He said it as truly an inspiration which made me feel great! Although I was alone that year, it was the most meaningful Christmas I ever had. Because it was just me and Jesus without the hustle and bustle of all the other nonsense that goes on at Christmas. Be comforted in knowing that God is with you during your time alone and just use the time to grow spiritually without the distraction of others. I'll remember you in my prayers. Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-11-03 22:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to a favorite co-worker who is also single otherwise just be cool about it. Put on confident front and your co-workers will admire you for it. Feeling uncomfortable is just you. Others won't even know that you are feeling uncomfortable..........so act confident and just enjoy the evening. Be less self centered or self conscious and give yourself more to the party.
2006-11-04 03:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO: Introduce yourself to the spouses and boyfriends/girlfriends of your coworkers. You'll know many people there; they likely won't and may be feeling really uncomfortable. Think of yourself as more of a host and you won't think as much about being awkward yourself, plus, it never hurts to impress the people your bosses and coworkers see when they get home.
DON'T: Drink too much. No one ever regrets being the one who wasn't drunk at an office party, but lots and lots of people regret being the guy who was.
2006-11-03 23:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ethel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do u have a good friend who is a boy? or mayber even a good girl friend? Im sure that would be fine to bring one of them. or you can go with a fellow worker who is in your position. Or it even would not be that weird if u went alone and who knows? u may have a boyfriend by Christmas!
2006-11-03 23:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by . 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've quit being shy about going places alone. I used to just not go, but now go if I choose. find someone else that is there alone and just make small talk. Doesn't hurt to move about the room spending a few minutes with everyone.
2006-11-03 23:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make plans to sit with other co-workers and their families. If your co-workers like you enough, they won't have any problems with you being with them alone. You will just blend in with them.
Office parties are not like weddings where you feel the need to bring a date or look like you need to.
2006-11-03 23:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get sauced before you go to the party. You will be numb to ANY embarassment...until the next week. But hey, who cares what happened in the past, ya gotta move forward. Or you could ask a friend to go with you.
2006-11-03 22:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by firestud2829 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find another single person from your office who is going and share a ride with them ...then hang out with them so you both feel more comortable.
2006-11-03 22:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋