I have these 2 guy friends that I messed around with. I was never in a bf/gf relationship with either of them, because I never really how they felt about me. Well one thing led to another, and I slept with both of them on different occasions, yah I know not smart. But I don't feel like I cheated because I wasn't their girlfriend. Anyway, they found out & they both called me a sl*t! What the hell, if they were really hurt by the situation why didn't they ask me to be their girlfriend before all of this, so I'd know? I thought we were just having fun, and that I was ok because I was "single" . So why did they call me a sl*t, if I didn't cheat?
2006-11-03 14:27:09 · 23 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would I be stupid to talk to them ever again? Or should we put the past behind us & continue to be friends?
FYI-later I found out they both knew each other back in highschool!
2006-11-03 14:28:51 · update #1
I didn't know they knew each other when it happened.
2006-11-03 14:36:43 · update #2
I don't think that makes you a slut. Maybe they felt foolish because they liked you or thought they would have a relationship with you. If you like one of them, talk to him and find out the reason behind him calling you a slut. Maybe one of them was just embarassed and called you that out of pride. I don't think that you couldn't get pass that word if a decent explanation was offered. There are worse things. But if they both (or even one of them) act like arrogant jerks, them just leave them alone.
2006-11-03 14:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to watch what you are doing in todays society! Do you know that there are transmitted disease going around in the usa. Look at this way anymore 1 out of 5 people have a transmitted disease. That includes AIDS. So watch who you are messing around with. You should only sleep with guys if you are in love and I mean really in Love. NO Kid Stuff. The real thing. So maybe that is why they are calling you such an awful name. My advice to you is get them in a corner one at time and see if they like you. If they do then tell them to quit calling you such an awful name. Well Good Luck!
2006-11-03 14:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to cheat on another person to be called a sl*t. A sl*t is someone that sleeps around... not necessarily a cheater.
I would never make friends with people that disrespect you by calling you names. That said... keep your distance and move on.
Not that you are asking about sex...but if I were you, I'd remind yourself of STD's and unplanned pregnancies. Abstinence has a place and a purpose.
2006-11-03 14:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is they made a bet to see if you would sleep with both of them. This probably came about because you have a reputation as easy. If that was the case then they went into this "fun" with you thinking of you as a sl*t. No guy is going to ask you to be his g.f. when he knows you are going to put out.
Suggest you get smart and resurrect your reputation by not sleeping with guys. Get a b.f. and then turn your attention to the needs of others, such as children in need of a big sister or big brother, etc.
2006-11-03 14:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have became one of those guys girlfriend before you slept with either one of them. Having casual sex is not having FUN !! Giving your body away the way you did tells me you do not love or respect yourself ! Just because you are single does not mean you should be "LOSE". No, you did not cheat on them, you cheated on yourself !!!!!
2006-11-03 14:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why they called you that, especially since neither of them had the balls to ask you out. But sleeping with 2 guys can trigger that. Guys are just wierd when it comes to women in their lifes. I don't know why. But, for both of them to go calling you that is not right. Basically, It takes one to know one.
2006-11-03 14:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Angel.. Oreo Cookie.. xD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you were friends and you slept with both of them and they called you a slut for one friends don't sleep with friends unless they have talked about it and you did both and now gave yourself a rap and you still wants to be friend with them you are crazy cause you know the word is out about you so leave them alone and move on good luck
2006-11-03 14:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase guys are jelous by nature. By hooking up with you they thought maybe that was a begining of a relationship and then you had sex with somone else... so to them you where cheating.. But, hey F those guys... do what you want. You only live once if you wanna have sex with lots of people do it... I personally have had sex with 40ish people in the last 2 years... so .. Rock on... F them.. and do what you want your single...
2006-11-03 14:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by morfusaf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sleeping with two guys around the same time doesn't make you a slut but it does present some questions.
Evidently both guys that they had something special with you and they were wrong....it they were hurt and probably mad.
Next time make sure you're all on the same page.
2006-11-03 14:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wasn't right for them to call you a S lu t. They should have called you "easy" and kept banging you. Go back and do them both, at the same time, and beg for forgiveness.
2006-11-03 14:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋