i like this girl...?

Question

but im afraid to ask her out because i dont want things to be weird with us. weve known each other for ever and weve been best friends scince we met, but i have very strong feelings for her. what should i do?

she knows how i feel about her but i dont want to ask her out because i dont want to ruin our frindship

Answer 1

Now what I say depends on what you think she feels. If you feel as if she wants to be just friends I wouldn't recommend being too upfront with her right now, even if she knows you like her. You really want to be with her romantically, right? Is explaining to her that you like her going to make her swoon? I don't think so. Sure a girl FRIEND would appreciate the honesty, because she can put a stop to it. Do you actually want to give her an out? A chance to turn you down before you have a chance to win her heart?

To make her your GIRLFRIEND, you've got to win her. Spend time with her. Ask lots of questions. Get to know her intimately. You say you are best friends. Great! You have an advantage! Really put on the charm. I don't know you, but just in case... don't worry if you don't have the looks. Personality and a good sense of humor is most important to a girl. Oh and security. She has to feel totally secure with you, which means don't be a creep. Be a gentleman. Make her feel like a girl/woman. Seriously on that last one. Know how to dance? Take her dancing. Go to dance classes. Trust me on that. Dancing is such a great way to woo a girl.

Hey! What if she is interested? Maybe she is! Look on this website and find someone who's asked about the physiological clues about someone liking someone else. But for starters, look at her eyes when she looks at you. Do her pupils get smaller? She doesn't like you. They get bigger? She likes you!

As you get even closer hopefully she will start to draw towards you. A girl who is interested should make it easy for you. If you don't feel as if she's making it easy for you, and especially if she's making it hard, now is not the time. Win her first. Be patient.

Then again, I do know for a fact that persistence counts. I know a fantastic girl who was won over by her now boyfriend because he kept asking her out for like 6 months. They are madly in love now.

Answer 2

Depending on your friend,
When you do feel comfortable and confident tell her how you feel. If she is a true friend she will respect and love you for your honesty. But you just will half to prepare yourself for if she doesn't feel the same way about you. But that is something you don't want to walk around with thinking if you should have told her. Wait for the right moment you will know, you will be comfortable and nerves and she will probably feel the same. You will know when the time is right.

Answer 3

Just start by asking her casually if she wants to go to dinner or something. Don't act too romantic until you get the feeling that she likes you more than a friend. If she doesn't like you in that way, then you have risked nothing....just keep hanging out together.

Answer 4

I used to feel the same way, for my boyfriend. He's been my best friend for years, and I'd been in love with him forever.

Here's the thing, you can be best friends with someone and be in a romantic relationship at the same time. Think about it, would you ever marry someone who wasn't your closest friend?

Do you know if she likes you, or would be willing to give a "more than friends" relationship a shot? Just try and hang out with her more, invite her over to watch movies with you, have her come chill out....just try and get closer than you already are.

And follow your heart.

Good luck <3

Answer 5

I knew my husband for 14 years when and was best friends till one day he just was so persistent about wanting me to give him a shot of being his girlfriend . WOW I said yes. I met him when I was nine and now I am twenty-nine. When I said yes he was so relieved to my answer. It was worth it. I would have been married to him for six years on Nov. six. I am so happy he did get brave and asked me to date him when he did. Because that was the best time of my life. My husband died three months ago. We have two kids ten and four. He was thirty years old when he died. My point is in telling you my life story is . If he didn't and was scared the time he had left here I would have lost. Take chances . Sometimes they make happy memory's. Thanks

Answer 6

I think you cannot hide this feeling forever, one day you should tell her what you feel about her. Choose the right time to tell her about your feeling. It's possible from a best friend become a girl friend and it's not wierd, but it's very very normal. And if you never tell her your feeling, i think it will be a big loss for you in your life, cause you never know what she feel about you. May be she's your soulmate. Who knows?

Answer 7

From a girl's point of view, I think you should talk to her first. See if she is in the same place as you are. you don't want to freak her out or scare her away, so just ask her if she has the same feelings as you and if she does, if she even wants to act on it. Sometimes, friendships with guys are more important to us girls, so we don't always want to give that up.

Answer 8

If she knows how you feel, then things are about as wierd as there going to get, so ask her out, and if she says no, then just act like nothing happened

Answer 9

Tell her in private that you like her and have for a long time. If she doesn't tell her that you don't want your feelings to ruin the friendship. Chances are she'll have the same feelings for you.

Answer 10

well the question is does she know you like her? if not you should talk to her one on one and tell her if she doesnt like you say i dont want things to change between us because of how i feel for you ok? and if she does like you ask her if you want to go out sometime.