over the knee etc
2006-11-03 14:11:00 · 23 answers · asked by abduloddessa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
over the knee worked for me
I deserved each and every spanking I got
2006-11-03 14:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Wow, this is a loaded question!
I generally don't spank my children unless its a safety issue IE they run out in the street.. I would rather them have a red mark on their butt than stitches in their head or killed by a speeding car! So the people who say you should never spank your child it will make them "afraid of you". Well that is exactly what I want, for them to be afraid of disobeying me... When I say Don't run out into the street.. I mean it for a reason. Its not because I m being mean.
As far as the best way, there is no "best way" other than telling your child why you are spanking them, and just getting it over with. Then afterwards re inforcing that you do this out of love, and that its important for them to obey.
Bear in mind, I came from an abusive home, spanking your child on the rear, is NOT the same thing as beating your child on the rear or anywhere else. Beating and being excessive is not acceptable ever. I generally never ever go over three swats just because its usually more than enough to get their attention.
I wish you luck.
2006-11-03 22:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by blondeokie73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is entirely appropriate punishment for small children, but there are right and wrong ways to do it. The seat of the pants is probably the best part of the body to spank as it can receive pain but there is little chance of doing any damage. Some say it’s best to use a paddle or strap instead of your hand as the child will come to associate what ever you use with punishment. I don’t think there is anything to that. If you do it right the child should associate the punishment with the bad behavior.
Also never punish out of your anger or frustration! Only to correct a specific defiant behavior.
As a punishment “Time outs” are mostly a waist of time unless there is a need for the child or you to have a chance to calm down. Children of loving caring parents do not resent the occasional corrective punishment they received.
2006-11-03 23:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Twoeyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that time outs work well. Place the child in a time out seat. Tell the child why they are going on the naughty spot. Set a timer (one minute per year of age). Then, when the time is up, get on eye level with the child and talk about why they were placed in time out. The child must apologize to get up. We usually discuss what she could do to make the situation right again - apologize to the person she offended, pick up a toy she threw, etc. If my child is throwing a fit in public, I try if possible to remove them from the situation until they calm down.
Also, taking away something they liike for a set amount of time works well.
My doctor did recommend tapping the hand for serious offenses (like her biting - due to health risks).
2006-11-03 22:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by christinaka6262 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the age. im not that formal. bending my children over my knee. i just grab the belt and chase em down. half the time i dont even spank em, i just make that snapping noise with the belt and that scares them and they stop what their doing. theyre 2 and 6
2006-11-03 23:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by MixedQtee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple swats on the bum never killed anyone. I often wonder if there's a relation between parents not spanking nowadays & some kids growing up rotten.
2006-11-04 01:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by ebonyruffles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just put them over my lap, but I only spank for serious issues of safety, lying, major disobedience, etc. My first line of action is always prevention, then reasoning and so forth.
2006-11-04 07:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try not to use your hand, otherwise it becomes associated with punishment. my mum always used a wooden spoon. make sure you explain why you are giving the spanking, then give lots of hugs and kisses afterwards and make sure they know that it hurts you to have to punish them. make sure they understand what they did wrong, otherwise they may become resentful. hope this helps! and spanking is NOT child abuse. when it's used in the wrong way it is, but when only used for discipline, it is one of the best things because it's over quickly. i was spanked alot and i've turned out exceptional. make sure it's on the bottom though, because it's not got any muscles in it that will hurt for a long time if you spank them.
2006-11-03 22:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by nameisie90 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There is NO best way to spank a child. There are other ways to displine. Time out is a good one and loosing a privilege or sending them to there room whatever the age calls for. But not spanking.
2006-11-03 22:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 3⤊ 5⤋
spanking raelly isn't nessary. a much better way to change their behavior is psycologically. teach them to behave correctly before they need discplinary action, if that fails then take away their favorate toy or use time out, whichever works best. And for the childs sake, explain to them how to behave correctly and what consequences they'll face if they don't.
2006-11-03 22:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Stephan 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you shouldn't spank a child. Heres a way you can punish them without them hating you. what you do is get a towel or a stool and when they get in trouble then you put them on the stool or towel and put them in a corner or in an empty room and tell them to sit there for a sertin amount of time and they cant move. Its a good technique
2006-11-03 22:16:58 · answer #11 · answered by jake c 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋