Age and relationship question / advice.?

Question

Some months ago, I met this girl that is much younger than me.
First, let me tell you that I am a very single man who has a great career and I am financially secure. I am in no way a freak or psycho and have never done this before. I am fiscally rich and emotionally poor. She is just the opposite; she is emotionally giving and financially poor.
Anyway, she is so nice to me and never asks for anything. She knows of my status and has told me over and over that she does "Not want my money". She even tries to by me things, even when I resist because I know that she can not afford it.
We love spending time together and make each other laugh. We talk on the phone all of the time and share our daily experiences. She stays at my house and although we have made love one time, it’s not about sex. Her companionship and snuggling at night are amazing. I feel good taking care of her and she truly loves the emotional support that I offer her.
She is 18 and I am 43. Is this wrong?

Answer 1

It is possible that she is a mature 18 and you are a young 43, but you should ask yourself what the two of you have in common. Is it that she is looking for a father figure and you want some young company, or is it more than that? If you are looking at this as a long term relationship, do you really think that when you are 60 and she is just 35, you will still want to be with her and she with you? If you are just wanting a relationship for now, as long as she is of age and you enjoy each other's company, where is the harm?

Answer 2

My mothers and dads had 34 years distinction of their an prolonged time. ( he replaced into fifty 4 and she or he replaced into 20 while i replaced into born.) They have been married for 15 years until eventually now my father exceeded far flung from maximum cancers. i'm 40 8 my spouse is 28 and we've been married almost 9 years. My 25 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous daughter thinks we make a suitable couple. the biggest situation that has helped shop us at the same time is quite direct and open communique. We communicate approximately each and every thing or maybe although we've our disagreements we hear to what the different individual is asserting and then we attain a compromise that works for the two one persons. And no my daughter does no longer call her mom nor does my spouse choose her to call her mom. very final be conscious age is largely a quantity no longer a curse.

Answer 3

At 18 ... does anyone really know what he or she wants ? I might suggest that the old Beatles song, "money can't buy me love" would be appropriate here. I know that most girls with any amount of savvy want a guy who is mature. But; think of the vast age difference ... when she is 43, you will be much too of a burden for her to manage. If you truly love her as you state, you will back off and go looking for a gal more in your social strata. You ask the question, "Is this wrong?" ... what do you think ???

Answer 4

my fiance is ten yrs older than i am, not a big deal to me because im in it for how we feel about each other. we dont see ages when we look at each other. sure we might goof around and kid about when we were younger and what we grew up around, but all in all we love each other and respect each other because we're on the same level.

in your case, i would suggest giving it time and see how things work out as time goes by. if it is meant to be, then things will follow through. if things dont go so well, then maybe it wasnt meant to be-BUT there are always bumps in the road and its up to you if you're going to help each other through the hardships that may come along.

my fiance and i went through so much drama during our first 3 months or so than a regular married couple would have gone through with a matter of years. we've gone through family problems to financial problems to our own insecurities, but we knew that we loved each other and that is what kept us wanting to push through to stay together.

i think that its great you 2 can share a genuine bond and not make sex a priority in the relationship. you care more about the small things and things in between like cuddling. i dont think feeling emotions is wrong regardless of age. if people cannot accept or respect the fact that you are happy, then they can happily see themselves out of the door.

what matters is what you want with her and how far you are willing to go.

best wishes. stay true.

Answer 5

there is a 25 yr gap between you two don't get me wrong cause love is blind but you have to weigh the the pros and cons and are you willing to go the distance with her cause her life has just begun and you have lived half of your life and is more experience in things then she is and she has never lived her life and it could come a time that she might want to experience life with other people can you handle that with out a lot of stress and came you handle her wanting her space in a few years so think hard about this situation good luck

Answer 6

My girlfriend is 30 and I am 23. Not quite the difference but similiar. I personally feel uncomfortable with that age difference but thats just me. If the relationship is good for both of you there isnt anything wrong, maybe just socially odd for some. The only thing I would say could be wrong is the "I feel good taking care of her." That seems like you just enjoy paying the bills. You probably dont mean that but, just dont let it be about that.

Answer 7

this is not cut and dry both of you are wrong but not alot. You like her because of what she can do for you and the piece of mind she gives. you being 43 probably want a young girl and her being 18 probably wants an older man so you are what each other "thinks" they want but over time you 2 will end up splitting hairs over the most mundane of things but both of you are adults so yall can do whatever yall want to and nobody can say anything

Answer 8

My husband and I are 13 years apart and we have a lot in common. In respect to love, I don't believe that age matters unless it is illegal. In this case, she is a consenting adult. However, when my husband and I first started dating, our families had a huge issue with our relationship. We have had a bumpy road through it, but have now been married for 2.5 years and have a one year old son. It is possible to carry on a great, loving and fulfilling relationship with someone older or younger than yourself.

Answer 9

ok its not wrong. Just be cautious at that age alot of people are not mature enough to understand alot of the things you do. You will understand in time. Its like when you get in your 20's you remember you never did sow those wild oats. If your happy and she is money and all that shouldn't matter.

Answer 10

I normally don't see a problem with an age difference but 43 vs 18, ah, no, it is wrong. when she's older and had a chance to experience life that will be different but right now....wrong, very wrong.